I've seen this rule be tossed around a few times but I don't really know too much about how Strict it actually is.
My family are incredibly strict Christians, mostly my dad who is the 'spiritual leader' of the household. My Mother is significantly less strict, but still not totally supportive of deviancy.
Awhile back I figured it was time to open up to my parents about my interest in Buddhism and desire to move Forward into it by pursuing the monastic path. I opened up to my mother first and it was an ordeal. She isn't fully behind it, but understands my wish and will not stand in my way of moving forward with it.
However, when we discussed telling my father, she was very strongly against even telling him about this. I knew that the news would be shocking too him, but my mother informed me that because of his heart condition, the stress that it would cause him could very significantly shorten his life...and I agreed with my mom that it would not be good for his health if he ever found out about it.
The next thing she told me absolutely crushed me. She said that it would be best if I didn't move forward with this until they were both dead, when it would no longer matter to them...which she seems to be under the impression that it will be in the next 5-10 years and they will both be gone, but I know they have more than 15-20 years of health in them.
All I've ever wanted is for my parents to approve of my life choices and allow me to live the life that I want. I never wanted to go against them or make this painful for them...but they will never fully support this transition
I don't know what to do if parental support is what stops me from being able to take this path, because I will NEVER be able to get that...my mother has already said to me that she would rather die first before she fully supports this decision.
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