All Hsv Singles should let others know the basis of herpes. 65-90% of people have HSV 1 or HSV 2. Most people have an "outbreak" of one form of HSV in their life. Why do you want to tell your potential partner about your herpes? What is the impact of this on HSV singles dating?
If I am not being intimate with someone then I don't see why it is anyone's business. I wouldn't go around telling people when I have/had my period of herpes outbreak. I don't feel I need to share my pin number or passwords for various electronic devices with my family or friends. Not everything has to be shared with people in our lives.
I understand the feeling of stigma but for societal stigma to lessen it needs to be lessened in the minds of those that have it first. I agree the pictures on line of genital herpes show it as pretty severe. The majority of pictures on line are not the norm. If the pictures were to show what herpes looks like most often people would probably look at the pictures and say, they don't see too much.
I think a good way to approach telling someone is to think about what is the worst that could happen if I tell this person. If they walk away, then oh well. At least you know where you stand with them. Isolating yourself is not a solution; it is avoiding the situation and reality. If they tell someone, what's the worst that can happen? If the person says something to you about you don’t have to respond to them if you don't want to--unless you are being intimate with them, it's really none of their business.
I understand the concern of spreading HSV. People should be allowed the option to make an informed decision about the situation of HSV singles dating. However, most HSV singles don't get tested or even don't know they have HSV 1 or HSV 2. There are often no symptoms, just as with other STDs. So, if there is someone you are interested in being intimate with perhaps it would be beneficial to ask them to get tested--maybe they will be one of the 65-90% of people that already have HSV 1 or HSV 2 and it won't be an issue once they get their test results.