“Worry is the dark room where negatives develop” (Modification of Michael Pritchard)
If you look up the word “worry” it is defined both as a verb and a noun. It can mean “a state of anxiety and uncertainty over actual or potential problems.” It is also defined as “give way to anxiety or unease; allow one’s mind to dwell on difficulty or troubles.”
“Worry is like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do, but it gets you nowhere.” ((Glenn Turner)
Some of us may think that Worrying is helpful. Is it? Has worrying solved any problems for you? In worrying about the future, we think that by considering all the possible outcomes and how we might react or respond we are somehow preparing ourselves.
We may even feel guilty if we don’t worry because maybe something bad will happen if we stop, or we or others may think we just don’t care.
“Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow; it only saps today of its strength.” (A.J. Cronin)
Take the following story form Brené Brown’s book “Daring Greatly” of a man in his sixties. “I used to think the best way to go through life was to expect the worst. That way, if it happened, you were prepared, and if it didn’t happen, you were pleasantly surprised. Then I was in a car accident and my wife was killed. Needless to say, expecting the worst didn’t prepare me at all. And worse, I still grieve for all of those wonderful moments we shared and that I didn’t fully enjoy.”
Many times when we worry, we are focused on the future, something we have no control over. Worrying about things out there in the future does not protect us because we have no power over the future, only the present. What will help us is to focus on the here and now, and what we do have control in this moment. Gratitude is a wonderful way to cut off worrying because we can focus on the present and what we are grateful for in this moment!
Deep Faith eliminates fear.” – Lech Walesa
When we worry, we are not having faith. “Worry is a form of unbelief… Who is in charge of your life? If it is you, then you have good reason to worry. But if it is I, then worry is both unnecessary and counterproductive. When you start to feel anxious about something, relinquish the situation to Me… I will either take care of the problem Myself or show you how to handle it.” (“Jesus Calling” by Sarah Young)
Someone said to me once “Mylene, either you live in faith or you live in fear.” My response was, “Well, I better live in faith because fear sucks.”
If you want more help with this topic, check out our article “Peace in 3 Steps” and our videos “Faith and Fear” and “20 Quotes to Help You OvercomeWorries.”
Written by Mylene C. Hallaran, MS, LPC. Visit us at www.lifeworkscounseling.orgfor a free offer.