Everyone’s got that friend or group of friends they met in high school, or even earlier, that they used to get in trouble with and all those shared hours of detention. Quite often, as we get Older we realise things have changed, and frankly maybe we shouldn’t be friends any more. SO, how do we know that we’ve outgrown our friends.
At first, it’s small things, maybe your interests have changed and theirs haven’t. You don’t love playing video games or making friendship bands, or playing Dungeons and Dragons, or whatever the hell you did as kids together, but they still do. They love it, and have taken it online in the modern era. They’ve gone way over the top and try to get you to share their enthusiasm for it, but you just can’t do it any more.
Beliefs change over time too. Sometimes religious people stop going to church, and non-religious people decide to take it up as adults. No judging here, but it can make a big difference in people’s attitudes. Political opinions change as we get older, and this can cause some real issues!
Going out at night is a big one too. Maybe nowadays on a Saturday evening you’re keen on a quiet night in; when all they want to do is go out until all hours in the morning. You’re married, and they’re single, and there may be kids in the picture. You have one person who is as free as a bird, and the other who’s the exact opposite.
Over time it can escalate and the only reason you stay in contact is out of obligation. You call them (because as friends that what you’re SUPPOSED to do), and you have nothing to say to them. They want to talk about pointless crap, and you have lots of important stuff going on that you think they just wouldn’t get.
It’s nothing to worry about, it’s all a natural part of life. As we get older, we look for ways to meet like-minded people that share our values, and that want the same things out of life that we do. There comes a time in everyone’s life that we just have to say goodbye to those people who don’t.