When a bride enters her new home, she does so with a mixed bag of emotions. She is happy and excited to share her life with her partner. But at the same time, she is nervous about the new Family that she has now become a part of. It is true that the couple needs to work their way through this, but it is also the responsibility of every family member to put in efforts to strengthen the new union.
The one person who can truly guide the new daughter of the family is the mother-in-law. After all, having being in the same situation and managing the entire clan over the years does give her some sort of expertise in the matter!
The relationship that these two ladies share is unique and sacred at the same time. So, we have listed 7 such promises that a mother-in-law should make to her daughter-in-law to make their bond strong. These 7 vows would definitely lay a strong foundation to build a loving relationship between the two:
1. I Accept You For Who You Are
Dear daughter, I welcome you with open arms and accept you just the way you are. I know that you have grown up with certain family values, which I respect. There will be absolutely no pressure for you to change from your new family because this is equally your home. Let us learn new things from each other to make our home more beautiful.
2. I Will Always Pray For Your Health And Happiness
I will always pray that you build a strong and happy relationship with my son. I want you to have a healthy and successful married life. Although I am not your birth mother, I will always bless you like your own mother would.
3. I Will Help You Build Your Own Nest
Now that you are my son’s wife, you have a special place in my heart too. I promise you both that I will help you build your own nest and grow as a family. And I trust that you both would always love me and respect my feelings.
4. I Will Genuinely Appreciate Your Efforts
My daughter, I know that you will make efforts to adjust to this new family. We, as a family, would also do so. There may be times when you will feel lost and confused. I promise to be there for you at such times and genuinely appreciate the efforts you are making as I truly know how you feel.
5. I Will Help You Sort Your Differences
Married life has its own highs and lows. I know as I have been there once, and maybe still I am. There would be testing times for you too and I will always be there to help you iron out your differences.
6. I Will Respect Your Space Like You Respect Mine
I understand your eagerness to take charge of your life and I completely trust your abilities to run the house. I promise never to interfere in your decisions just like how you never question mine. Don’t worry if you go wrong somewhere, you will learn from your mistakes. Whether it is parenting, relationships or housekeeping, always remember that I am just at an arm’s distance whenever you need me. I will be there to guide you whenever you need my advice and I hope that you will not hesitate to seek one.
7. I Will Always Support You To Pursue Your Dreams
I promise that I will support you to follow your dreams. Whether you wish to work, stay at home or take up a hobby, I will encourage you to pursue them. Your identity as an individual is as important as your identity as a wife or a daughter-in-law and equally contributes to the growth of this family.
As simple and easy these promises might seem, it takes a lot of effort from both the women to make them work. Harmony in any relationship is not achieved overnight and is a continuous work in progress. We are sure that any daughter-in-law would be happy to have these 7 vows as a gift from her mother-in-law, which will motivate her even more to make efforts to blend into her new family.
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