Oh Mother’s Day… the wonderful day that your children make you feel special and show you how much they love you!
Not in My House
My two girls are Adopted from foster care. They fill my heart with joy and I know they love me too. But not on Mother’s Day. It’s for certain that day will secretly make their hearts ache and long for their Bio Mom.
I get it. See adoption is wonderful for me, I was prepared for it. I changed my life around to do this. My girls didn’t. They were removed from the care of their bio mom so Mother’s Day equals a loss for them. It triggers memories, some good, and some bad.
It doesn’t hurt my feelings though, and I don’t take any of it personally. My girls are still in pain after 4 years. They will suffer that grief and loss for the rest of their lives… and it will always hurt the worst on Mother’s Day.
This year my oldest gave me a beautiful letter. That’s enough for me. She’s 14 now and the fact that she wants to please me is now is awesome. Our first Mother’s Day was only two months after they moved in with us. That year she was angry at me and so she made me a card with crayons and paper purposely to rip it up in my face.
She was shocked when I smiled and showed her that it didn’t bother me. I held it together and I wasn’t quite in love with her yet either.
But each year it does get better, and easier, and happier. So far this has been our best Mother’s Day yet with only a few melt downs.
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