Thank you for the question.
They say the perfect metaphor for parenthood is trying to stand on a hammock while holding a glass of wine hoping not to spill it. I laughed out loud when I first read this because it is so true!
Was I good a enough mom today? What can I do to prepare myself for tomorrow? Did my kids eat well and enough today? What meals am I going to make for tomorrow? Do I have all the ingredients? Has the dog been let out? Do I have time, energy and inspiration to write in my blog? What milestones are next and how can I help guide my children? -are all the thoughts that run through my mind, even when I sleep! All parents can relate to this. Parenthood is a balancing act.
I have learned to let go of alot of control that I once thought I needed to be a good parent. Letting go and just letting life happen-Kids will get sick. Bruises and bumps are inevitable. Messy eating is part of learning. Messy play means they are inquisitive, investigating, exploring and having fun! I have accepted that I can’t dress up because my shirt and pants will always end up dirty, yoga pants and Hair ties are my best friend, the sink will always be full, kids cry and kids rebel. I learned that post partum I really do lose alot of hair be ause the kids literally pull my hair out, having a kitchen with an abundant supply of snacks will save me and thay putting on make up makes me feel more awake and alive so to take 10 minutes in the morning to doll myself up.
So how do I balance it all?
Simply being one step ahead because trying to raise a family with 3 boys and a dog, you are already 5 steps behind. I always try muscle through the day and get things done before they’re due on my watch. I know my boys well, so I can almost always predict their behaviours and catch the tantrums before they happen. Don’t get me wrong, there are days where I snap or feel unappreciated or feel overwhelmed and disappointed in myself because I failed to “do it all.” Removing the expectation to do it all helps me feel more energized and supported. Give yourself grace, make self care a priority and go to sleep early. Oh, and wine.
For the month of February I will be opening up to any questions you may have regarding post partum, parenting, early childhood education, step parenting and more
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