Whether it is your husband’s sister or your brother’s wife, Competition between sisters-in-law is unavoidable in every Family. However, if you don’t make an attempt to nip it off in the bud, it might cost a big wedge in the family itself. Follow these five simple rules and better your relationship now!
1. Don’t enter the competition
It does not matter who is thinner, who is more beautiful or richer. If she wants to take the pride and lead in everything, so be it. It’s best you don’t enter the ring. She clearly is making use of you to make herself feel better. So, it’s best you don’t take part in the competition, leave alone defeating her. And in case she takes the floor, allow her and tune your mind to zone out. Smile and just don’t contribute to the conversation. Oh, and don’t ask her any questions about her new job, car or that expensive diamond ring. Just smile. She will eventually run out of ideas and shut down.
2. Draw the line when it comes to family
She might want to be one step ahead of you in everything, but when it comes to your kids and husband, make sure you have the last word. And if she uses your child as leverage, ensure you don’t share anything personal about your child’s life. An accomplishment in school or an A grade in an extracurricular could only mean more room for jealousy. Also, keep your husband’s money matters and work achievements out of her. It may be her own brother or brother-in-law, but at the end of the day she definitely is going to draw a comparison with her husband. If you feel as though she continues to cross the line you must call her out on the behavior and let her know you do not appreciate her behavior.
3. Beware of how she treats you in front of your MIL
Whether your MIL is her mom or you are both daughters-in-law, make sure she does not show you in a negative light to appear good in your mil’s eyes. If you see a sudden change in your mum-in-law’s attitude towards you, you might have to do some investigation if your sis-in-law has a role. Consult your husband, only if you feel the matter has gone out of your hands.
4. Limit your interaction with her
In case you feel things are not going the way it should, you have very right to limit your interaction with her. You of course cannot ignore her because she is family, but you can wisely choose to stay away yet close. Consider the relationship to be more on a “business” instead of personal level. Be professional but not personal.
5. Have a chat
And if none of the above seem to work, its time you spoke it out to her. Tell her what you feel and also try to understand her perspective. Remember, there is no problem that cannot be solved and this is not the end.
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