WOULDN’T YOU LOVE TO KNOW HOW TO MAKE REALITY WORK FOR YOU?
WHAT IF THERE WERE A PROCESS DESIGNED TO HELP YOU DISCOVER AND REFRAME THE SELF-DEFEATING BELIEFS THAT HINDER AND HOLD YOU BACK AT HOME, AT SCHOOl, AND/OR WORK? WOULD YOU BE INTERESTED IN LEARNING IT?
THE REALITY FORMULA™ OFFERS A MODEL THAT WORKS WHEREVER IT IS APPLIED SIMPLY BECAUSE IT TEACHES US HOW TO MAKE PEACE WITH REALITY!
EVERY STUDENT. EVERY PARENT, EVERY TEACHER, EVERY BOSS, EVERY EMPLOYEE, NEEDS TO KNOW THESE PRINCIPLES FOR ULTIMATE PERFORMANCE, HEALTH, AND PEACE IN LIFE.
AND IT DOESN’T TAKE MONTHS OR YEARS TO SEE RESULTS WITH THE REALITY FORMULA™ … YOU WILL SEE RESULTS AS SOON AS YOU APPLY THE GUIDING PRINCIPLES OF REALITY© TO YOUR LIFE SITUATION!
The Reality Formula™ is for you if:
- You feel constantly frustrated at obstacles that appear to stand in your way
- You want to live and work in a more positive environment
- You are tired of spiraling into a dark hole of mental despair
- You feel doomed to repeat self-defeating patterns that result in chaos, despair, and inner misery
- You are ready to initiate positive change
- You are willing to look within for the peace you have failed to find in the external world
- You want to build productive, effective, highly motivated and creative teams at work or school
- You are looking for conflict resolution at home or work
- You want to establish better communication with those around you
- You are tired of feeling creatively blocked and stagnant
- You feel stuck or trapped by your life or work situation
- You are ready to learn how to accept Reality and turn it into something that works for you.
- You are looking for an authentic set of guiding principles to live by that are practical and simple to use in everyday life
- You are looking for peace, and harmony with yourself, your life, and those around them
If any of these are sincere goals for your life, then read on. The Reality Formula™ may be exactly what you are looking for!
The Reality Formula™ is a model for finding resolution to life’s dilemmas by making peace with Reality and learning how to make it work for you, rather than by trying to force life to go your way.
The Reality Formula™ is based on specific guiding principles of Reality, which are easily recognized as being simply true. For instance one of the guiding principles that serves as a foundation for the Reality Formula™, and defines the elemental truth from which the Reality Formula™ draws its name, is based on the following formula:
“When we believe what we think, we immediately begin to feel and react as if what we believe is true. We automatically start acting in ways that attracts to us and us to that which will prove we are right!”
Here’s an example that illustrates that formula: if I were out walking and came across what I fully believed was a coiled venemous snake, I would immediately feel all the feelings I associate with a poisonous snake … and I would automatically react according to my belief. Maybe I jump sideways out of terror, for instance, in an effort to side-step it. Suddenly I realize that what I’m seeing is NOT a snake at all, but a coiled up piece of rope! Just as quickly my response changes to match my realization. I have returned to Reality, my story is revealed, my feelings allayed, and I am back to peace.
But what if it really was a snake and I startled it with my sudden sideways leap? How is the snake likely to react? By striking out at me perhaps? Now My fear of snakes has been proven; “See snakes ARE as dangerous as I thought, did you see it strike at me?!”
We unfailingly react to our daily life situations in ways — of which we may not be aware — that end up inviting from others the very response we expect to get (but not necessarily want …) We get what we unconsciously believe and expect without having ever stopped to consider the part our own reaction plays in proving what we believe! This is why what we believe is SO important! As long as we, as bosses, employees, students, teachers, consultants, kids and adults, react out of what we believe, rather than in response to what is reality, we will harvest less than productive outcomes.
The thing is that the Reality Formula™ is the way the human mind works!
In Reality all humans practice this formula whether we know it or not! Whatever we may call it, the Reality Formula™ describes the way all humans see the world … and so it is applicable to EVERYTHING! Anytime we blindly believe limited, self-limiting stories about ourselves as parents, as kids, as employees and bosses, we will be unconsciously playing these beliefs out in our lives in ways that reinforce and fuel them. In other words, we practice self-defeating habits that will reinforce the unhappy beliefs we carry about ourselves and others.
The Reality Formula™ as a process teaches us through four basic tools about how to explore who we are in relation to the roles we play in life. It’s a process that removes blame so that real resolution can be found. There is no shaming … no fault-finding involved, which allows us and those we serve to feel safe enough to step up to self-responsibility. Suddenly we are forging ahead, operating from a foundation built on trust, rather than from a place of fear and ultimatums.
The Reality Formula™ offers four primary tools for peaceful problem resolution that brings us ultimate understanding and peace:
Tool One: Core Beliefs: Defining The Unhappy Story We Are Believing Now
Tool Two: The Victim Triangle: Discovering the Defense Strategies We Use to Prove us right
Tool Three: Observer Consciousness: Practicing Mature Responses that Bring Us Better Results
Tool Four: Guiding Principles: Daily Applying Tools that Restore Us to Sanity and Peace with Reality
Learning what stories we blindly believe is the first step to being able to step back and observe, rather than to “take its ride.” We either observe and question these stressful stories or we blindly act them out in ways that not only prove them true, but also impede progress and keep us stuck in unhappy patterns in every aspect of life!
We bring our unhappy stories about ourselves, others, and the world in general with us when we come to work, and we project them onto others and treat them as if what we believe is true. The Reality Formula™ may well explain the most insidious problem in the workplace, and that is the tendency we have to project out paranoid, unhappy stories onto those around us, and then unconsciously act in ways that prove us right. It is an issue that, left unaddressed, undermines families, classrooms, and teams in every workplace across America. The Reality Formula™ is a simple process that provides practical tools for intervening on our stories about one another. It allows us to build genuinely supportive environments, at home, at school, in our church communities as well as in the work place that encourages people to come together as a team, find resolution without blame, and learn how to make peace with Reality.]
Once we uncover our own self-limiting beliefs — the ones that undermine us and keep us from leading productive, effective, and meaningful lives — we begin to recognize the defense strategies we move into as a result of believing them; these defense strategies are best defined by the three roles on the Victim Triangle.
We get hooked by something someone says or does, or by a particular set of circumstances, and we spiral down into victim consciousness, that state of mind that is convinced that its something outside of us, it’s what they said or did, for instance, that causes our misery. Victim Consciousness leaves us feeling at the mercy of what’s happening “out there.” And feeling at the mercy makes that external ’cause’ the reason for my misery … at this point we choose one of the three defense strategies on the triangle, represented by the three roles, Victim, Persecutor, Rescuer. We either collapse, attack, or try to save or fix it. All three choices are still in blame. No real resolution or peace can come from that.
Instead we must cultivate the antidote to victim consciousness, that state of mind we call the Observer, or Observer Consciousness. Observer Consciousness is a place beyond blame. It helps us to see life as offering us opportunities rather than problems. It sees our life dilemmas, personality conflicts, and painful difficulties as being a process of refinement, rather than as a sign that things are falling apart. Its a process that reminds us that Reality is what it is and that it is what it is for a reason — and further, that the reason is always FOR us. In other words, we are constantly being given room to grow and expand through the things we encounter in life — we grow through the blockages we experience … and the Reality Formula™ teaches us how that works.
Reality has certain premises that we call Guiding Principles of Reality© which define it; Once recognized and remembered for the basic truths they are, they help us to find our way through the narrow passageways of our limiting stories and back into the light of Reality where peace and resolution await our return. These Guiding Principles of Reality are the natural way we see the world when we are living in alignment with Truth and Reality.
This is a brief introduction just to begin to acquaint you with the Reality Formula™; it is a process that is amazingly effective and that works in a wide variety of settings.
WE HAVE DEVELOPED SPECIFIC MODELS FOR THE REALITY FORMULA DESIGNED TO FIT YOUR WORK OR INSTITUTION’S INDIVIDUAL AND UNIQUE SETTING.
Our team will work with you, as a supervisor, guidance counselor, or CEO to bring the Reality Formula™ into your work environment.
We have already developed several models such as, The Reality Formula For Kids©. a very carefully thought through and fully developed program for kids (Ages 4 up) wherever they are found. There is a Happy Kids Toolkit©, complete with a thorough teaching video and manual, along with the tools you need to present the Reality Formula For Kids© in homes, schools, and child-care institutions, and centers of all kinds. We have used this model in programs that work with children with special needs with much success, as well as using it in orphanages. This model is spear-headed by Danielle Alvarez-Greer, the top executive for the Reality Formula for Kids©. Learn more by contacting her by email at [email protected]
We also have Reality Formula in The Work Place© and Reality Formula for Couples©, as well as a Reality Formula Coaching Certification© that we will be offering next summer (2016) through a local community college. It is a serious sixteen total week course designed for those who want to become certified instructors of the Reality Formula™.
The bottom line is that the Reality Formula™ is for everyone. Why not get started Today?
CONTACT US TO LEARN MORE. Inquire by email at [email protected] or phone at 423–698-0814
