We don’t have to feel the way we do. We can change our thoughts. We can change how we feel. All it takes is work — the thing most people avoid.
If we keep thinking and feeling the same negative thing then we keep making the same mistakes. Shake it up.
The easiest thing is to change what you do, and just let your feelings catch up. You retrain your Brain. Push through things, don’t sweep it under the rug. If you push it through, you have control. If you sweep it under the rug it stays there. You train your brain to believe it’s too hard to change, you learn to lie to yourself. But that’s the easy way. Doing the work is hard. But hard work is what gives you more character.
Get out of your lazy Comfort Zone. Do something different each day to build new habits and train your brain to think and feel differently. It also doesn’t take a long time to do.
This is where my head is. I sat around moping and wishing for someone else to do right by me for literally years. I am the one that has to do right by me. I had to leave the comfort zone. I was settling. I was not getting treated right. I was not respected. I had to keep explaining to someone why I should be treated better. NO. Never again.
Sometimes I don’t see my own value until I see it through the eyes of someone else. I have had a really great weekend of doing that. I’m steak not hamburger. If you could buy me the price tag would be 6 figures easily. I have value.
I’m tired of cowards and wimps. I want a man. A grown ass man who gets shit done without procrastinating. A man who can make me feel protected and warm. A man who wants to “provide” for me, but not financially. He should provide peace, happiness, comfort, support, love, kindness, and so on. I want a man who can just handle his own shit without acting like everything is too much for him. I want a man with passion but power over his emotions. I want some macho, just not misogyny. I want a man with a body that has some muscle so when he holds me I can sense his strength. I want a man who listens more than he talks, and has empathy. A man who not only sees my value but also has his own value. I deserve my damn EQUAL. I will no longer settle for less.
If someone believes they are less than you — they probably are. Listen to them. You can’t ever build them up or fix them, or even help. Tell them to grow up and to take care of their own fucking shit and don’t lay it on you.
Emotions have power. But we control them, we create our own emotions. So I FEEL like a bad ass. I FEEL like a damn Princess. I FEEL like a Phoenix rising above the ashes. I FEEL like having what I want.
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