2024-04-16 16:03
What do you do when your life is OK, but you’d really love to have some piece of it be “WOW”? Like climbing a mountain or recording a song or contributing to world peace. B… Read More
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Written by Dr., Noelle Nelson, a psychologist, consultant and speaker who has authored over a dozen books, all of which focus on empowering individuals to be happier, healthier and more successful at work, at home and in relationships. The power of appreciation is the theme that runs through all her books, the latest being "Happy Healthy...Dead: Happy Healthy…Dead: Why What You Think You Know About Aging Is Wrong and How To Get It Right.†If you'd like to know more, visit www.noellenelson.com.
2024-04-02 16:01
You’re ready to stand up for yourself, hurrah! But you can’t figure out quite how to do so effectively: you’re either too shy or too bold in your approach. It’s not w… Read More
2024-03-28 17:09
Spring! Such a glorious time of year. Trees sprouting white
and pink blossoms, tender new green leaves on bushes and plants, more sunlight,
less gray. How delightful! If only one had time to… Read More
2024-03-19 16:19
The words you hear from loved ones, friends, bosses and co-workers are powerful, you rely on them. But here’s the thing: are they trustworthy? How do you know if their words are to be… Read More
2024-03-05 15:36
How do you go from knowing what you don’t want in your life to knowing what you do want? You’ve been so conditioned by other people’s definitions of what you should want, y… Read More
2024-03-01 23:42
“Don’t get your knickers in a twist” is one of my favorite
sayings. To myself, sigh. Because frankly, I find myself too often getting my
proverbial “knickers” a… Read More
2024-02-20 15:55
Do you ever feel like you’re not in charge of your emotions, that panic is swirling within you, ready to engulf you in a tsunami of dreadful feelings? In this podcast, find out how to… Read More
2024-02-06 15:55
You give, you give, you give – while others take and take and take. How do you break this vicious cycle without becoming a selfish egomaniacal uncaring individual? In this podcast, you… Read More
2024-02-01 19:22
Once upon a time, in a galaxy
far far away--well, no, actually right here on Planet Earth, and not all that
long ago, there was a thing called a “typewriter.” It was the precurso… Read More
2024-01-16 15:48
Patience may be a virtue, but you have yet to find anything virtuous about what seems to you to just be a monumental waste of time. Be patient for what? Why? With whom? In this podcast, you… Read More
2024-01-02 15:43
Ever wished life were simpler, less complicated? What happened to the ‘good old days’ when things were easy and you were just bopping along, happy? In this podcast, you’ll… Read More
2023-12-28 16:11
Here we are, at another New Year, that time when we set
resolutions for the coming 12 months. Or try to. But here’s the thing, even
with our best intentions, research shows that our re… Read More
2023-12-19 15:45
There’s a far worse Grinch than the Grinch that stole Christmas, and unfortunately that Grinch, the Negativity Grinch, lives in our own minds much of the time. Yet negativity, in and o… Read More
2023-12-05 15:40
You don’t want to be seen as needy or clingy, or – even worse – desperate, yet you want to be loved, appreciated, valued! And yet, you have every right to want what you wan… Read More
2023-12-01 22:24
The
Holidays. A time of giving. And giving and giving, until sometimes it feels
like you are nothing but a shopping/buying machine, and the joy of giving, well
. . . it’s going-goi… Read More
2023-11-21 15:37
Too often we don’t stop to consider what we want our lives to look like, much less how to get there. We just go along, hoping to somehow stumble into that perfect job or lover or whate… Read More
2023-11-07 15:34
Do you confuse being modest with failing to acknowledge your own qualities? Too often, we confuse owning our qualities with arrogance, or entitlement, and certainly we don’t want to be… Read More
2023-10-28 22:16
Thanksgiving is traditionally a time to give thanks. Most of
us are pretty good at that. We can usually always find people and
situations in life that inspire us to be grateful. Until certai… Read More
2023-10-17 14:37
It’s so easy to have negative knee-jerk reactions to events in our day, which more often than not lead to a generally angry/irritated disposition for the whole day. Who needs that? &nb&hell…Read More
2023-10-03 14:38
Too often we go about our days by rote, never really looking at the why, as in “what’s it all about and why am I doing this anyway?” which too often lead to a profound sens… Read More
2023-10-02 16:14
It’s a funny thing about life. Sometimes when you get the
things you wanted – the sporty car, the big house, the bling – it turns out
they interfere with the life that you… Read More
2023-09-19 14:36
It’s amazing just how much time and effort we can put into what someone else is thinking about or why they’re doing what they’re doing. Usually coming up with lots of negat… Read More
2023-09-05 14:57
Isn’t reacting just part of life? How can you possibly choose something as automatic as your reaction to things? You can’t. But what you can choose is how you respond to whatever… Read More
2023-08-31 20:38
Last week, I had a rather nasty disagreement with a
colleague. Even though it got resolved – well, sort of – I found myself going
over and over it in my mind. For days. Not a pro… Read More
2023-08-15 14:23
Do you find yourself apologizing for other people’s misfortunes or unhappiness? Saying “I’m sorry” because they are suffering however, even when – and most ofte… Read More
2023-08-01 14:38
We are blessed with both a head and a heart. You’d think that would be enough to get us successfully through this adventure called ‘life.’ And yet, too often, we use one to… Read More
2023-07-30 16:48
Apart from writing, my dogs, and life generally, my great
passion is Ballroom dancing. A totally off-the-wall pursuit, no doubt, but one
that truly lights me up. In addition to my primary in… Read More
2023-07-18 14:37
Ever wonder why no matter how much you browbeat yourself for doing something wrong or never getting ‘it,’ you just can’t seem to do better? Are you that incompetent? Heck… Read More
2023-07-04 14:40
Why should ‘intent’ matter anyway? Isn’t the point that you do what you’re supposed to do, what’s ‘right’ and that’s that? No, In this podcast… Read More
2023-06-28 17:23
We rarely enjoy change, even when we want that change. We
will usually find any excuse we can to avoid the necessary steps to whatever
that change may be.
For example, given that it is ligh… Read More
2023-06-20 14:37
Addiction isn’t just something that afflicts other people and involves heavy drugs. Most of us have some form of addiction, even if it’s to seemingly benign activities – li… Read More
2023-06-06 14:36
Wouldn’t it be nice if your child/teenager did just what you needed them to do, right when you wanted them to? YES! Unfortunately, that’s rarely the case, and most often you find… Read More
2023-06-01 23:10
Some days it feels like life is one endless hamster wheel, where
you go round and round and round in the same way day after day. You know the
drill: chores-work-kids-chores-bed, rinse and re… Read More
2023-05-16 14:27
How do we manage to stay so very connected with everyone on the planet via all our devices, yet somehow disconnect from what our own bodies are trying to tell us? We tend to ignore our bodie… Read More
2023-05-02 14:18
What is ‘character’ anyway? And what does ‘character’ have to do with you? ‘Character’ matters, it’s what tells you if someone is trustworthy or not… Read More
2023-04-28 22:41
We are a quick-fix species, we humans. We want ‘it’ –
whatever ‘it’ is – NOW! The money, the lover, the job, the car, the child to
behave, the partner to… Read More
2023-04-18 15:37
There are people who genuinely like you, are well-meaning and truthful about their attraction to you. Then there are people who only like you for what you can give them in the moment, and ar… Read More
2023-04-04 15:40
Wouldn’t it be nice if you could control everyone and everything so they did just what you needed them to do, right when you needed it? Maybe. The reality is, that will never happen. B… Read More
2023-03-30 15:59
You would think that a garden-variety cold would hardly lead to an epiphany. What can I tell you? That’s what happened! I ended up flat on my back, sneezing, coughing, not-sleeping, mi… Read More
2023-03-21 15:39
What is it about blame that makes it so very tempting? And what’s wrong with knowing you’re right and others are wrong? Surely they should know they messed up! The problem with b… Read More
2023-03-07 21:23
Does anything you do really matter? Why do you feel so often like an insignificant cog in some giant wheel? Where you don’t matter. In this podcast, you’ll discover that you real… Read More
2023-02-27 19:36
The Holidays are long over, New Year’s came and went, Super Bowl happened, Valentine’s Day is but a dim recollection, so what’s next? Ah yes, tax season . . . Let’s n… Read More
2023-02-21 15:42
You beat yourself up endlessly over the “I should haves” and “I should have known betters” that punch nasty holes in your otherwise happy life, aka the “shame&r&hell…Read More
2023-01-31 20:07
I learned an amazing new technique from my massage therapist Tammy recently. No, not yet another way of ironing out my body ‘kinks,’ although she is pure genius when it comes to… Read More
2023-01-17 15:38
Why is it that the apparently easy one-shot answer to your problem just caused a whole bunch of other problems? You’re exhausted! Understandably so, because you see, one size does not… Read More
2023-01-03 15:38
You resolve to be nicer, you get walked on. You resolve to be more assertive, people avoid you. What’s up with that? Why can’t you get this dealing with people thing right? Well… Read More
2022-12-28 22:15
The great thing about a New Year is we get to make a fresh start. The not-so-great thing about a New Year is we get to make a fresh start. Which we often abandon within a month or so. We the… Read More
2022-12-20 12:05
What you bring to life is what you get from it. No, that’s not just a cute platitude, it’s real. As in, you really do get what you give. But how? How exactly do you go about givi… Read More
2022-12-09 18:48
Love. Everyone wants it, in every aspect of their lives, from self-love to love of others, to love of how we are and what we do in the world. Too often, though, we are run by fear, not love… Read More
2022-12-06 12:10
Have you ever been caught between wanting to help a loved one, but worried that in your attempt to help, you’re just furthering their dysfunction? You’re not alone! It’s a… Read More
2022-11-29 16:16
It seems the topic uppermost in so many of our minds at this time of year is stress. AKA Holiday stress. Too many gifts to buy, too little money. Too many cards to send out/email, gifts to w… Read More
2022-11-15 12:22
It is said that whatever you focus on, grows. Great. Except when you find yourself focusing on yucky hurtful things, which just seem to magnify the misery in your life. How can you use the e… Read More
2022-11-01 20:08
I’m sitting on the floor in my office, cell in hand, eye-balling the Internet router refusing to connect to the Internet, while the Frontier tech troubleshoots the problem. Which occur… Read More
2022-11-01 12:06
Why is it you can never seem to find the love you seek? That special relationship that would fill you with such joy. What’s wrong with you? Nothing! What’s wrong is how you&rsquo&hell…Read More
2022-10-18 16:03
Do you ever feel like your life isn’t in your control? Like you’re living what everyone else wants you to and you’re not happy, and you don’t know what to do about it… Read More
2022-10-04 15:57
Olympic athletes use it, successful performers use it – guess what? You can use it too! When you have to have that conversation you dread, make that presentation for the first time, fa… Read More
2022-09-29 23:19
Nobody likes to be told they are wrong. We all believe, in our hearts of hearts, that we are right, no matter how logically misguided we may be. So why do we so often voice an objection to s… Read More
2022-09-20 15:57
How can you make sense of the pile of manure you’ve just dumped into? The upset or disaster you didn’t anticipate but is now making a mess of your life? Good question! In this po… Read More
2022-09-06 15:49
Is it ever just all too much? That the marriage or job or friendship you counted on to last forever falls apart? Or some dreaded disease afflicts your beloved child and all you can do is ran… Read More
2022-09-01 17:03
As I stood in line waiting for a table last week, a couple of people were leaving the restaurant. One of them was complaining about the food, the few waiters, and how long it took to get the… Read More
2022-08-16 12:04
Why can’t you get heard? Why, no matter how loudly, angrily or with tears abounding you speak your distress, your partner stands there like a stone? Aargh! In this podcast, you’l… Read More
2022-08-02 12:04
You can’t help yourself. When “stuff” hits the fan, you go down that rabbit-hole of dread and despair so fast, it not only hurts, it hurts bad! But what if there was a way… Read More
2022-07-31 22:58
Dr. Joshua MieleI was having a pity party the day before a Ballroom Dance Competition. It was hot, I was tired, my legs were sore, we hadn’t rehearsed enough, I’d never remember… Read More
2022-07-05 12:07
Do you ever feel that you can’t do anything right? That you can’t get things to go your way no matter how hard you try? Rather than deciding something must be wrong with you &nda&hell…Read More
2022-06-28 22:18
Amid the pandemic, when we were for the most part quarantined, urged to remain indoors as much as possible, I had an overwhelming urge to get out into nature. Living as I do in Southern Cali… Read More
2022-06-21 12:05
Why does it seem like just when life is going along so nicely, something pulls the rug from under you? Like losing your job, relationship, car? Why can’t things just stay steady on cou… Read More
2022-06-15 20:43
Are you tired of endlessly “working” on your relationship? Why should you have to be “working” on it in the first place? Good question! In this podcast, you’ll… Read More
2022-06-07 12:03
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2022-06-01 21:15
A dear friend was lamenting the state of the world these days, and indeed, the wars, shootings, political and legal wrangles are disturbing to those who want peace and prosperity for all. In… Read More
2022-05-17 15:34
I was given the opportunity to tell my personal story about the devastating fire that destroyed my home and the uplifting yet challenging journey that followed on the "Stories of Inspiring J… Read More
2022-05-17 12:04
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2022-05-03 12:06
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2022-05-02 19:57
So often, it seems like the world presses against us, day in day out. Work duties, family obligations, endless chores, finances, on and on. Who has time for anything as frivolous as delibera… Read More
2022-04-19 13:07
Why is it that sometimes in the best of times, you feel anxious? Like the other shoe is going to drop any minute, and sure enough, something comes along to bump you out of your happiness bub… Read More
2022-04-05 13:11
It’s tempting to compare yourself to others, you know, those slimmer-richer-happier-more successful others, yet whenever you do, you end up feeling awful about yourself. Lower than an… Read More
2022-03-29 18:27
The ability to leap tall buildings in a single bound is hardly useful these days, given the wonders of CGI. And yes, invisibility might still be useful, but what if you forgot how to be visi… Read More
2022-03-15 13:11
Why can some people express their disappointment, frustration or even anger with a loved one so easily, and yet confrontation is something that totally makes you cringe. You can’t go o… Read More
2022-03-01 15:46
My morning was supposed to be devoted to writing a report for one of the trial attorneys I consult for. The work takes concentration and focus, as my conclusions influence how the case is de… Read More
2022-03-01 13:06
Does it ever feel like you’re in a really bad movie, where no matter what you do, you end up in a sucky relationship? Over and over and over again? To where you want to give up on rela… Read More
2022-02-15 13:08
You don’t think of yourself as an overly sensitive person, but heck! When people think your ideas are ridiculous or stupid or whatever, or when they don’t see the value of your w… Read More
2022-02-01 13:11
Ever felt stuck, like you’re on a hamster wheel of never really getting ahead, whether it’s with finances, love, or just plain getting up in the world? Why is it that what you re… Read More
2022-01-18 13:10
Why is it you can’t seem to get any of your desired self-improvement goals going? Whether it’s losing weight, going to the gym, or getting to work on time, nothing you do seems t… Read More
2022-01-04 13:07
Does it ever feel like your emotions are running the show? Like your anger, anxiety, depression have just taken over your whole being? How are you to get on with what needs to be done when y… Read More
2021-12-28 16:45
To say it’s been a strange year is an understatement. Even stranger than last year, because most of us expected that 2021 would see an end to the global pandemic and political unrest… Read More
2021-12-21 13:06
To you, it seems like “be patient” is just another way of people saying “tolerate the stuff you don’t like.” Aargh! Who needs that? But patience is actually the… Read More
2021-12-07 13:05
What is it with people who won’t do what they’re supposed to do! Partners, children, co-workers, what is it, a conspiracy to get you to do everything yourself? No. Although it ce… Read More
2021-11-24 15:59
I came across a quote recently by Alan Cohen I think is pure genius: “When you reframe problems as projects, they will cease to bother you and begin to stimulate you.”Pure genius… Read More
2021-11-16 13:04
Why is it you can’t seem to get off the blame game? Whether it’s blaming other people for whatever’s going wonky in your life, or blaming yourself over and over again, it s… Read More
2021-11-02 12:07
Does it ever feel like your emotions are running the show? Like your anger, anxiety, depression have just taken over your whole being? How are you to get on with what needs to be done when y… Read More
2021-10-28 17:15
I recently had the pleasure of speaking with Kim Pagano on her radio program. We talked about overcoming adversity and finding strength in friends, family and sometimes perfect strangers. He… Read More
2021-10-28 16:28
Reading. Something we do every day, in many ways. We read street signs, we read directions, we read texts and emails, we read instructions on everything from setting up a baby crib to how yo… Read More
2021-10-19 12:06
It seems like life keeps punching you in the gut, whether it’s with annoying stuff like your car getting keyed, or serious stuff, like dealing with a partner’s terminal illness… Read More
2021-10-05 12:09
You’ve totally had it with people who won’t do what they’re supposed to do! You don’t like snapping at people or yelling at them, but what else can you do? You’… Read More
2021-10-01 22:05
We may not be out of the pandemic quite yet, but many of us are carving out a “new normal” for ourselves. Because let’s face it, life is not going back to what it was a mer… Read More
2021-09-28 12:08
What is it with some people that they refuse to respect who you are? Dissing pretty much everything from your emotions and your dress style to what you do for work? Why does it feel so bad?… Read More
2021-09-24 20:40
Does it feel like the stress in your life has increased exponentially since COVID? Are you all too often jumpy, anxious, upset, or just plain mad? How are you to survive all this, much less… Read More
2021-08-30 19:47
As we struggle to emerge from these long months of pandemic, it can be challenging to find the strength to keep going. It’s not just the constantly shifting COVID protocols, there&rsqu&hell…Read More
2021-08-17 12:05
Have you ever been scared to death of making a change, no matter how much you wanted it, because – heck – what if it didn’t work out? What if it made things worse? Yikes! A… Read More
2021-08-03 12:06
You are so over being the go-to person for everyone in your life: at work, at home, wherever. How can you free yourself of their demands without being a jerk? Great question! In this podcast… Read More
2021-08-02 20:05
The problem isn’t the problem. You read that correctly. Really. The problem isn’t the problem: the problem is when we forget to focus on the solution. Take Ben Lovell, for… Read More
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