Get Even More Visitors To Your Blog, Upgrade To A Business Listing >>

How to respond to insults and rude people

       Insulting others can be happy and exciting for many people. There are many ways in which people Insult and hurt individual’s feelings. Some people make use of verbal insults which can be aimed in a direct or indirect way;some choose facial expression to insult others,and some insult by action.When people insult you for your feelings it means that they are looking for some reaction from your side. Let's try some ways to deal with those people and situations..
Stay Calm
      Well, now we’re going to talk about,what you can actually do or how you can actually respond to insults.Now responding to an insult is much better than reacting to it.So the first thing you’ve got to remember when you are faced with an insult is to stay calm.Mostly people who insult are people who are probably insecure.They love to control.They are very controlling people,right? So they want to ensure that you get angry or you just maybe break down and cry but you are not going to give them,the satisfaction of that kind of reaction, right? So, before you even respond to what they have to say,ensure that you take several deep breaths,stay calm so that you are composed enough to give a very effective reply to what they have to say.

Express, How you exactly feel
      It is also very important to tell the person who is insulting you,how you exactly feel.Yes, even though you are to stay calm, it is your duty to ensure that the person who is insulting you or mocking you knows what you are going through.So, you can also tell them that if what they’re doing is illegal,it can have unforeseen or unpleasant circumstances for them. say for example, if you have a coworker who is bullying you over the internet,you can actually tell them that if you report them, it’s going to have very bad consequences for them or maybe if you have a cousin who keeps making rude comments at you,you can simply tell them,that you are not very happy about what they’re saying and whatever they’re saying is going to actually affect your relationship with them.So when you are faced with an insult, it is important that you tell the person who is insulting you, what you actually feel.

Simply Ignore
      The third point to note when responding to an insult is to ensure that you ignore the insults completely.Wellignoring an insult is sometimes the wisest and the best thing to do.Why would you ignore an insult and not respond to it? Well, you can ignore an insult simply because you want toensure that the person who has insulted you should not feel that they’ve affected you in any way.So when you actually ignore the insult,you’re telling the person that,look I’m not affected by it.Okay now,how would you ignore an insult? You can ignore an insult by changing the topic of conversation and talking about something entirely unrelated or you could just walk away from the place that you are having this conversation with or this person.So you could leave the room,you could leave the place that you are being insulted or spoken rudely at.So say,for example, you’re at work and your coworker makes fun about the way you present a particular topic. So, you don’t feel very good about it but you want to ignore it.So you will simply walk out of the room or talk about,you know a different project altogether which is not even related to the one that you have worked upon right now.So,ignoring an insult is one of the wisest things to do.

Use Humour
      Another very interesting way of responding to an insult is by using humour. humour is probably the best defense mechanism when you have to attack an insult. When someone’s making a joke at you,you can try using that person’s joke and using that joke, you actually put the joke back at them.But of course,you’ve got to do it in a very nice light-hearted way which ensures that they don’t feel offended and at the same time it makes the atmosphere very easy and not so very tense.So say for example,if a colleague or a co-worker makes fun of the fact that you walk in to work late every day.They call you,miss late or miss tardy.What you can actually do is you can say that yes, I do come late but I’m actually learning to come late from you.I see you walking in late every day as well. So you’re actually taking the insult but you’re kind of directing the joke back at them.So you’ve got ensure that when you’re actually doing that, you’ve got to be very natural in tone.You don’t have to raise your voice in order to ensure that they don’t get as offended as you’ve probably gotten when they’ve made the insult of the remark at you.

Report Insults
      The next thing you need to know is that you have to sometimes also,report insults. If insults are based or related to gender, sexuality,religion or disability,it is against the law.The person who is actually doing that is not doing a very lawful thing and it is your right as the victim to actually report these kinds of acts.At school or at work,you have anti-harassment departments which actually would listen to your plight and would do the right thing in order to ensure that you don’t have to face the insults ever again.

Indulge in self-care
      Doing good things for yourself will always help you feel good and therefore it is a good idea to indulge in self-care.So if you are being mocked or insulted or spoken rudely to on a continual basis.If you actually do some little good things for yourself,you can feel very good from the inside.It could be anything.You can go for a quiet walk.You could go and get yourself a nice haircut.You could go to the spa; you could just work out if that helps you feel better.Anything in order to ensure that you feel good about yourself.So please, please indulge in self-care because not everyone will make you feel good, you’ve to do that for yourself.

Document yourself
      Well, people are always going to put you down but it’s up to you,to actually bring yourself up and stay strong.So it is important that you write a journal.When you write a journal,you can actually document or make a list of things that you actually like about yourself.So this is a list of things that you like about you.So it could be things that relate to your strengths.It could be things that relate to what you’ve achieved over the number of years or it could simply be anything that tells you that you are just a very beautiful person.

     So, I hope now you got some idea about what you can do and what you must not do when you are insulted or in a situation where you feel mocked or ridiculed. .Don't get upset and be happy..

   “No matter how valuable you are and your ideas, fools will certainly play both of you down, so exclude yourselves from the inflammatory environs of fools.” 
                                                                                                                                                                           Michael Bassey Johnson

This post first appeared on Keep On Moving, please read the originial post: here

Share the post

How to respond to insults and rude people


Subscribe to Keep On Moving

Get updates delivered right to your inbox!

Thank you for your subscription