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The Code of Silence

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Photo Taken Oct 22 2010
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African American, African, Muslim, Indian are just the few communities that have this unspoken code of silence. Whether it is to protect their own ego, their family's honor or they don't want to get judged. There are so many reasons why people do not talk about their problems. This article on breaking the silence on mental illness in the black community was really captivating in showing what our communities need to work on.

I really value that in Western Communities because they are more likely to ask for help when they need it, whether it's rape, abuse, mental illness anything else. I once had a girl who called me up saying that I was stealing her boyfriend and she threatened to find me and beat me up and also started harassing me on Facebook. I actually told this girl that I would call the police and she obviously thought I was bluffing and I said "We are not in Africa anymore" and hung up. My next call was to the police who contacted her and I never heard from that girl ever again.

As a 21st century African female, I do not understand this idea of not talking to protect my ego or to make it seem like I have a perfect family. If I am being abused, hurt or if I feel like I need help I will contact someone because why would I want to die in silence. Life is not about being in competition with each other on who is better. This is what I find in many African cultures, we can't stand together because we are busy fighting against each other, competing and trying to make it seem like we have this perfect life. When something is wrong break this code of silence and do something to help yourself, this I understand.

What do you guys think about this code of silence?

This post first appeared on The Modern African Woman, please read the originial post: here

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The Code of Silence


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