I love Christmas. I don’t care much for the presents under the tree. For me, it’s all about the food and being together with my family.
When looking back on my own childhood, it’s not the presents I remember. It’s the places we visited, the things we saw and did as a family that I’ll never forget.
The stuff is not what I want. Because that’s what it is. Just stuff. The stuff is what accumulates in life and takes up space and often creates a stressful and cluttered environment. I want the memories, the pictures and the stories.
Here's why I think you should create your own stepfamily traditions:
It’s something to look forward to
Kids eyes start sparkling months before Christmas morning while they wonder what Santa is going to leave under the Christmas tree. And not just one Christmas tree. Santa will have to visit mommy’s and daddy’s homes!
Traditions help cement you as a blended family
This is especially helpful when your blended family is still fresh and new! Each family member will bring their own Christmas traditions and expectations to the table. It will take time and patience to create ‘your’ holiday. But you will get there with time. Incorporating their established traditions with a few of your own will help you move forward as one family.
Your story, your memories
Creating your own holiday traditions helps create the narrative of your blended family’s story. These traditions are now part of your memories which you only share with your partner and stepchildren and other family members. And these memories will last a lifetime.
(Christmas) traditions encourages family time together
We live in a fast-paced world, the kids are growing up quickly. Before we know it they will be out the door doing their own thing. The traditions we make as a blended family encourages us to be together and share special moments with one and another.
Creating a new tradition is fun
Traditions are here for a lifetime, they get passed down generation to generation. We love the idea of this but, as a stepmom, I’ve learned that nothing stays the same. What my stepchildren used to do when their parents were together isn’t exactly the same as it is now. (obviously…)
Starting new traditions is fun. As a stepparent, you can be as creative as you want. Traditions aren’t just for holidays, they’re small everyday gestures, like sitting down for dinner as a family. Sure, major traditional changes can be an emotional experience for your stepkids. And I emphasize, CAN BE.