Gemma Atkinson has words for those who think a c-section is in any way “easy”
UK actress Gemma Atkinson gave birth to her first child over the summer and in the weeks since, she’s posted a number of precious photos and updates about life as a new mom. Of course, part of new mom life is dealing with those who feel the need to judge and weigh in about every single aspect of pregnancy, birth, and a mom’s parenting decisions. Atkinson recently addressed one of those topics in a very honest Instagram post about being told her c-section birth was the “easy” way out.
Um, hell no.
Alongside a meme about exactly how brave c-section moms are, Atkinson writes, “A lady recently joked with me that id had the easy option when it came to having Mia as I didn’t experience ‘proper labour’ she wasn’t being nasty, she said it in jest and she was actually really lovely, but it did get me thinking when I got home. Had I failed? Had I not done it ‘properly’?”
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A lady recently joked with me that id had the easy option when it came to having Mia as I didn’t experience “proper labour” she wasn’t being nasty, she said it in jest and she was actually really lovely, but it did get me thinking when I got home. Had I failed? Had I not done it “properly” ? After a good chat with myself i came to the conclusion that the only “proper” way to have a baby is the way that’s safest for you and your baby. There is nothing easy about having a section. There is nothing easy about a vaginal delivery. They are both tiring, scary, emotionally draining and each have their own recovery process both mentally & physically. However you brought your baby into the world was right for you and your baby at that time and that’s what matters. To any mums who like me, had to have a section and are feeling a little odd about it (which is normal) the above is for you.
Infuriating, right? Any mom who’s been there knows that there’s nothing easy about a c-section. And for the record? There’s no “easy” way of giving birth, period.
Which is exactly what Atkinson thought.
“After a good chat with myself i came to the conclusion that the only ‘proper’ way to have a baby is the way that’s safest for you and your baby. There is nothing easy about having a section. There is nothing easy about a vaginal delivery. They are both tiring, scary, emotionally draining and each have their own recovery process both mentally & physically.”
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This picture was taken when Mia was 30hrs old. The weary smile on my face doesn’t quite portray how happy I was inside as 30hrs earlier, things could have gone very differently. Mia was a tiny baby, 4lb 10. With that in mind the midwife was concerned she wouldn’t be strong enough to open my cervix. My water broke on a tues & we gave her the benefit of the doubt but by the Wednesday evening despite her being in the perfect place & so low down, she still hadn’t managed it. The decision was made to induce me to help her along but she disliked that even more. With every contraction her heart rate dropped. On the 3rd one midwife Katie who was taking care of me at the time pressed the panic alarm & within 15 mins I was rushed out, prepped & delivered Mia via an emergency C section. It wasn’t what I’d planned but thanks to my hypnobirthing despite the madness & panic, I was able to calmly keep my breathing technique & accept whatever is best for Mia just do it! 2hrs later I was alone with Gorks & Mia blissfully happy in a ward when I suddenly felt extremely unwell. Gorka got a doctor and she took 1 look at me & again pressed the panic button. I was having a hemorrhage. A big one & I lost a lot of blood. I don’t remember much other than having around 9 doctors in the room, some injecting me, hooking me to drips, physically pulling clots out of me & one comforting Gorks who was beside himself in the corner. I woke in another room with Gorks & my family there, Mia sleeping soundly & a lovely midwife named Di who was checking my notes. The trauma was over & thanks to our NHS & incredible hospital staff we were ok. I’m fully aware for some people it’s a different outcome & I feel incredibly lucky that me & Mia are healthy & healed. My mum moved in with me while Gorks was away & has been incredible! If I can be half the mum she is to me I’ll be happy! I’m going to remind Mia of this story any time she has doubts about what she can achieve in life. The odds were against her from the start, but she’s been a little fighter from day 1. Feeds perfectly & is gaining weight like I do on an all inclusive holiday! We’re SO proud of her, she’s our little soldier & I’m so Grateful
She absolutely nailed it. Frankly, only people who have never had a c-section could ever think they were “easy.” And even then, if a person has even the smallest bit of information about what a c-section actually entails, they would know how totally wrong that idea is. I had two and while I admit I went through a period of feeling like my birth experience wasn’t the “right” or “real” way to have things go down, I later realized exactly what Atkinson did — that there’s no such thing as the “right” way.
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“However you brought your baby into the world was right for you and your baby at that time and that’s what matters,” she writes. “To any mums who like me, had to have a section and are feeling a little odd about it (which is normal) the above is for you.”
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