We hear so many guys saying that they don’t know how to read a woman because they are sending Mixed Signals. These mixed signals are confusing and can start to take a toll on you. Here a guide on how to deal with women who are sending mixed signals.

What are mixed signals?

So in the example above, you can see that this man has met a girl who he initially was not very interested in. She came onto him, flirted, and made it clear that she wanted him. As soon as he started to chase her she distanced herself. 

Mixed signals come in a lot of different forms so this situation may not exactly match yours. No matter the circumstances, there are similar ways to approach the confusion.

Situations and what to do

“When we are together everything is great, but when we are apart it doesn’t seem like she is making an effort”

So you go on a few really great dates with someone and you are very interested in them. You think that they are interested in you because they are showing you most of the signs she likes you. The problem is that when you are apart she doesn’t respond to you in the ways that you would expect.

Maybe she never texts or calls you back, maybe she does text or call you back but she isn’t as excited to talk to you. These mixed signals are extremely confusing because you don’t know how to proceed with them and you also don’t want to scare them off.

One reason for this is that they are not looking for anything serious or they just aren’t interested in you. They are casually dating you and maybe other people as well. When they are out on dates with you everything seems fine but they just aren’t looking for commitment so they distance themselves from you when you try to get to know them. Sometimes you can win this person over, but the best advice that we can give is to listen to what this person is saying. Another reason for this behavior is that they are just scared. Maybe they are interested in you but they don’t know how to show it.

The best way is to get through this is to ask them what they are looking for. Don’t go into this conversation asking her specifically with you. Ask her what she wants in general and respect her answer.

“She says she doesn’t want a relationship but acts like a couple”

You go on dates, you consult each other during hard times, you can spend hours on end together, yet she still says that she doesn’t want a relationship. You may think that you can change her mind, but there is a good chance that you can’t.

The best thing to do in this position is to make her miss you. Take a break from her and make her realize everything you have to offer. Either she will realize that she misses you or she will just distance herself completely.

Take this information and act on it. Don’t chase her if she doesn’t want to be chased. If she realizes that she wants to be with you have your perfect opportunity.   

“My girlfriend has randomly started distancing herself”

Whether she has started to emotionally hold back or physically hold back this is a super confusing situation. Often times, she will give you no prompting on why her behavior has changed which leads to confusion.

Sometimes this will deal with outer circumstances that have nothing to do with you. In this case, be there for her and let her know that you are there for her. Don’t do things to trigger her or make her feel more emotional.

In other cases, she will attribute her behavior to you. There may be something you did, or did not do, that makes her feel a certain way. Most likely she will not tell you about it and you’ll just notice a change in her attitude that sends you mixed signals.

The best way to deal with this in a relationship is to communicate. Ask her why she’s been cold lately. If she is open with you then that is a great space for growth in your relationship. If she doesn’t offer anything and keeps distancing herself from you it’s time to reevaluate your relationship. You can definitely get through hard times, but communication is key.

Communication

The key to dealing with mixed signals is communication. Sometimes you need to be forward, sometimes you can pick up on their actions. Communicating will save you from getting hurt. Don’t spend all of your time questioning your relationship status or how your girlfriend feels. Even if you don’t get the answers that you want, it’s better than not knowing.