Life is beautiful and we are lucky to have one. Being loved by all is the most wonderful feeling. We all want to be loved or let me re-phrase it, we all want to be Popular. As kid we all want to be the most popular in school and wanted to be loved the most by our parents. That's when we start comparing ourselves to others, gossiping and make fun of our own friends or classmates and soon we start Degrading others just to show how popular or how beautiful/smart I am. "I" is the most selfish word that one can use.
"I want to look the most beautiful."
"I am the most popular person in my school."
The one letter "I" is a word in itself and it becomes so big that we start disrespecting and degrading others. Being alive is one of the biggest battle that we all are fighting and winning each moment. Most of the time we forget that just to show how big "I" am we degrade others, hurting them.
I was an average student who was more of an introvert. I remember once how one of my teacher commented that, "This year even average children have scored well." I still member when my 10th board results were announced, I and my Father were celebrating that I scored 70%. Though some might say that it was not a great percentage but my father was happy. It did not bother him who scored what. What mattered to him was that his daughter scored 70%. I was standing near to notice board when the comment was passed by one of the teachers who knew my mother well. The teacher who passed that comment might have forgotten it but I still remember it. However, later on I realized that there are many people who find happiness in degrading others. That was just the beginning as life was much tougher ahead.
People don't only talk about others but also try to break others. They keep reminding you of your failures and the worst part is they will not stop here, they will rate you as well. There are people who become so mean that degrading someone makes them feel great.
Life isn't fair and it will never be fair. We are so busy making it perfect that we forget that it can never be perfect. We need to realize no matter what life has been and always will be beautiful. We all have our own social circle, personally as well as professionally. We have to face many challenges and some situations change our equation with people around us. Our social circle may consist of of our family members, best friends, close friends, colleagues, neighbors and so on. Our equation differ from person to person. Some may like us and some may not.
People don't only talk about others but also try to break others. They keep reminding you of your failures and the worst part is they will not stop here, they will rate you as well. There are people who become so mean that degrading someone makes them feel great.
Life isn't fair and it will never be fair. We are so busy making it perfect that we forget that it can never be perfect. We need to realize no matter what life has been and always will be beautiful. We all have our own social circle, personally as well as professionally. We have to face many challenges and some situations change our equation with people around us. Our social circle may consist of of our family members, best friends, close friends, colleagues, neighbors and so on. Our equation differ from person to person. Some may like us and some may not.
Some of the possible factors affecting equations in Social Circle could be
- Difference or Similarities of thought.
- Jealousy
- Competition
- Attraction
- Personal Reasons
- Superiority Complex
- Inequality
- Insecurity
What is degrading?Degrading in simple words is humiliating others.
However, it has been noticed that many people find good by degrading others and sometimes degrade people who like them. Let's ask few questions before moving further.
Are you degrading people around you? Do you bully people? Are you hurting others? Are you commenting at others?
Putting some down to make you feel bigger is the worst thing to do. Building up your confidence is great but degrading some else's confidence is not a grate thing to do. Sometimes, in a group of friends we start to joke about someone and then take it to extreme level hurting an individual.
Why? What is the need?
No two people are same. Being respected is great feeling but respecting others make you feel even better. Before writing further I am going to ask you another question.
Why to degrade others? What do you gain?
Life is very unpredictable, we do not know what will happen the next very moment. As I write I can recall, it was a normal morning and my father was going out of station for some work. He used to frequently go out driving on his own. That day also he got ready and I stood at the gate looking at him go. Something inside me was telling not to let him go. But he went as he had to and destiny had its own plan. The same day after few hours he left, we got a call from someone saying that my father met with an accident while driving. On reaching the hospital I, found my father was fine. There were no external injuries however, he was still admitted in the hospital for recovery. He was there for fifteen days and was recovering well, until one day suddenly he started bleeding and was rushed to another hospital and after three days he succumbed to an internal injury that was not detected in hospital earlier. Three day back, he was recovering well and that day he was lying motionless in front of me. He left to the unknown world. Many years have passed and I still remember how full of life my father was. Even in hospital he would always tell me, " Don't worry I would be fine, we will go home soon."
We did return home but he was not there. Life is so unpredictable. You never know what is in stored for us. Respecting your life and others life is very important. You cannot become big by degrading or gossiping about others. Before writing forward let us clear one thing that Gossiping is not gender based. Many times gossiping is a trait that is tagged to females but we fail to talk about the main issue that gossips and degrading others is a bad habit. We have no right to talk about anyone's appearance, life, career or anything. It's none of your business. Never talk ill about others. The people who degrade others are weak and to hide their weakness, they point fingers at other. Degrading others don't make you strong. Believing that you are superior to others is the worst trait to possess. Those who point fingers at others are insecure and non-confident about themselves. Confidence is good but over confidence will ruin you.
Making fun of others is not funny, it is pathetic. It does not talk good about about you. The best way to live your life is with respect. Self-respect and respecting others is important. Life is beautiful and realizing it is important. We as parents, its our responsibility to teach our children how precious and beautiful life is.
As I conclude, please remember living respectfully is important and degrading others is will harm you as well, if not today than in long run. Degrading other is not the trait of strong.
Stay strong and lead a positive life. Degrading others will not make you bigger.
