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“I have found out all the planning for my hen night has been left to one bridesmaid. I want a nice quiet drink and meal with friends, having a classy evening. She wants to get everyone hideously drunk, I am 99% sure there will be ‘L plates’, veils and all sorts of other tacky stuff. She loves limos and strippers, which I hate. From what she has told me it doesn’t sound like something I’m going to enjoy. Would it be really bad of me to say anything?”
I would definitely recommend speaking with her. Your hen party is extremely important to you, as well as your friends who will be paying to join you and you don’t want them to see you in tears! So have a private word with her and let her know anything you would love to do, but as important, tell her what you classify as truly horrible and you would hate with a passion. It’s really important here that there is no ambiguity, make sure she is really clear on what types of things to steer well clear of. On a separate note, have you considered, that she might be pulling your leg? Maybe she’s leading you on to think you are having the hen party from hell and surprise you with something glam and sophisticated! So definitely don’t fall out about it, just have a quiet word so everyone is still on the same page.
“My sister is having her hen night in a few weeks. Several of the guests have refused to dress up (boring!) but I’d like to organise some kind of surprise for her. What could I organise as a surprise instead?”
Butlers in the buff are a great idea when you are wanting to make your hen party that extra bit special, they can come to either your house or hotel, serve you cocktails and canapés whilst you get ready, and they will even wash up at the end! There is something very satisfying about a man being at the beck and call of a group of women!
“Today I got a call from one of the girls who is invited telling me that she had asked her sister if she wanted to come without asking me if it’s ok first. How can I say no to my friend that it’s not ok what she’s done and that her sister isn’t invited?”
Ring her up and explain the situation, if she is a true friend, she would want you to have the best possible time at your hen party! She probably didn’t realise why you wanted to keep it to the people you have invited, so if you explain the situation this generally sorts it out.
“I am in charge of organising a hen party for my best friend. She won’t be drinking so the typical night out isn’t an option. I need some ideas, but here are some issues that must be considered: age range 18-60, up to 15 ladies, she will be 6 months pregnant at the time, good value for money. Any suggestions?”
Ask your friend if she feels radiant or the complete opposite. If she feels radiant then how about a supermodel makeover, where she will be treated to a makeover then enjoy a photographic session with a professional photographer. At 6 months pregnant your best friend and her bump are bound to get some beautiful shots, which will be treasured for a lifetime! If she is feeling anything but radiant then how about a relaxing spa day. Here she can be prune like in the jacuzzi, enjoy the relaxation rooms while being pampered with a beauty treatment. Do seek advice from the spa what is and isn’t suitable for pregnant ladies as some treatments are not recommended, so just be aware of this as you want to be armed with all the information.
“For my best friends hen do, I’ve hired out a cottage in Cornwall in December. We are having a girly night in with lots of wine, nibbles and face masks. I was planning on bringing some DVD’s although I’m not a massive film lover, what are the best movies that all the girls will enjoy? We are aged between 30 - 36 years old.”
That sounds like a lot of fun! Try to avoid any movies that are too depressing, as you can guarantee one of the girls will end up in tears and the whole night will revolve around her sob story and not about the hen and her last night of freedom! So Titanic probably wouldn’t be the best idea! Chick flicks are great for a girls night in and classics can differ dependant on what age group you are. So if you are all in your 30’s how about Dirty Dancing, Grease or Mamma Mia. Mainly as they have great songs within them to grab your hairbrush to! My personal favourite for a girls night in, which makes me howl with laughter every time is Bridget Jones Diary. I’m sure everybody can relate to her and I bet you, somebody in the group will be wearing the famous stretchy Bridget Jones pants!
“I have been given the task of organizing my sisters hen do, although we have a few mutual friends, I don’t know the majority of the guests! I want the weekend to go as smoothly as possible, and for everybody to get along! What can I do as an ice breaker, so everybody can get to know each other before hitting the town?”
The best way for a group to bond, especially when you have people that have never met before, is through lots of laughter! If you are a very organised bridesmaid, try and get a really funny story from each of the hens before the hen party. On the day of the hen party, the bride to be has to read each one out and try and guess which member of her party is the culprit behind each embarrassing story! Trust me, this game will have you in stitches! If you are still worried about there being a few awkward silences, why not try and get all the guests together for either a night in or a few drinks at the pub a week or so before the party. Everybody can then get their introductions out the way and when it comes to the hen do, everyone will already be introduced and ready to celebrate the Bride to Be’s hen party!
I hope you have found these questions and answers helpful!
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Author: Isabel Brookes
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