Divorce at any age is never easy to go through, but what’s it like if you are only in your 20’s? People divorcing in their 20’s face a different set of circumstances than the more typical, older Divorcees. Many twenty-something divorcees say others are quick to judge them---comments such as “you were too young to make such an important decision” or “because of your immaturity, you didn’t give Marriage enough of a chance” are all too frequent. Here’s some other issues that twenty-somethings say they face after divorce:

Your peers are at a different place in life

Just as you are divorcing, your friends are planning marriages. Other peers are still avidly involved in finding the right career, hooking up, and having fun. As a divorcee, there’s a stigma---peers may not see you as one of them anymore. It can be difficult to connect to your peer group again.

There’s a Lot Less Younger Divorcees than Older Ones

Isolation is a typical feeling among twenty-something divorcees. Finding peers who relate to what they are feeling after divorce and having someone to talk to about it, is difficult. There’s a reason for that. Washington, D.C. think tank, Pew Research, says the divorce rate for those 25 to 39 fell from 1990 to 2015, and is attributed to more people waiting longer to get married. The median age for first marriages now is around thirty.

Good Things Happen Too

A recent Huffington Post article asked readers and bloggers in their 20’s to share life lessons that they learned from their young divorce. Comments included positive feedback such as, the divorce experience gives you a chance to reinvent yourself. It encourages you to do or try new things and make positive changes---start your dream business, go back to school, get out there and try new things. It gives you a perspective on marriage that others don’t have. You learn what works and what doesn’t in a marriage, and the experience leads you to wait for the right thing and not to settle.

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