Lies, misrepresentation, dishonesty, deceit, falsehood, so many words yet they all mean the same thing. The outcome of all and any of them is the same- Heartbreak and Agony, for you and your Partner. Shaadi magic brings to you some common lies that lead to the ruin of relationships/Marriage. These lies are, not just what you may tell your partner, but lies, which you’ve been told, lies you believe in, which may ultimately lead to petty fights, misunderstandings and in extreme cases Divorce

• It’s your age to get married:

Marriage is a commitment. It is not just your physical age, but your emotional age too. A number cannot decide whether you should get married or not, neither does anyone else. Your parents, relatives, friends can’t decide it’s time for you to get married, only you can. If you are ready to share everything, especially yourself; Then and only then get married. This so-called age for marriage is just a ruse for our society to classify us into someone or something they can understand. DO NOT fall for it.

• Marriage means Happiness:

No, it doesn’t. Marriage means being happy, sad, excited, morose, it means all this and more, but above all it means going through life with someone, being alone at times but never lonely. If you’re marrying him/her thinking it’ll make you happy that just might be the biggest mistake you can make. You have to make yourself happy, your partner might be the kindest, sweetest person alive, but he/she can’t make you happy.

• Compromise is everything:

While at times it is important to compromise, there is a limit to it. In order to save your marriage, you just might keep on making compromises but there will come a time when you will start to blame your partner for the unhappiness, the misery you’ve brought upon yourself. Try to adjust, but not at the cost of your happiness. It’s a marriage, you’re equals, Your happiness is important too.

• A Child will help save this Marriage:

How can this be true, when two fully-grown individuals cannot make a marriage work, how can an unborn child help it. By having a child as a remedy for your problems, you’re just subjecting an innocent to what might end up being a horrifying experience. The key here is to communicate, to talk about the problems you may be having.

• Jealousy is good:

Jealousy is like the slowly but steadily destroying the foundation of marriage. Do not unintentionally/ intentionally make your partner jealous. What might be fun to you can be capable of hurting your partner deeply.

• I married you, not your family:

Now, this might be, The biggest lie ever. In India, marriage doesn’t just take place between two individuals, but two families and you have to make adjustments according to your partner’s family.

• We will never make it work:

Giving up is never the answer. Don’t just accept defeat, fight for your love and fight for your marriage. If there is love then there is a reason to fight. Couples who make it aren’t the ones who never have a reason to get divorced, they’re the ones who decide that their commitment to one another is always more important than their differences and flaws.

Marriage takes work; avoid these simple mistakes to have a happier, more fulfilling marriage. Persistence is the key here. Love means never giving up. Even if you fall, just brush off the dust, and get right back into the saddle. Hope these tips help you and your partner.

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