2023-09-19 14:36
It’s amazing just how much time and effort we can put into what someone else is thinking about or why they’re doing what they’re doing. Usually coming up with lots of negat… Read More
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Written by Dr., Noelle Nelson, a psychologist, consultant and speaker who has authored over a dozen books, all of which focus on empowering individuals to be happier, healthier and more successful at work, at home and in relationships. The power of appreciation is the theme that runs through all her books, the latest being "Happy Healthy...Dead: Happy Healthy…Dead: Why What You Think You Know About Aging Is Wrong and How To Get It Right.” If you'd like to know more, visit www.noellenelson.com.
2023-09-05 14:57
Isn’t reacting just part of life? How can you possibly choose something as automatic as your reaction to things? You can’t. But what you can choose is how you respond to whatever… Read More
2023-08-31 20:38
Last week, I had a rather nasty disagreement with a
colleague. Even though it got resolved – well, sort of – I found myself going
over and over it in my mind. For days. Not a pro… Read More
2023-08-15 14:23
Do you find yourself apologizing for other people’s misfortunes or unhappiness? Saying “I’m sorry” because they are suffering however, even when – and most ofte… Read More
2023-08-01 14:38
We are blessed with both a head and a heart. You’d think that would be enough to get us successfully through this adventure called ‘life.’ And yet, too often, we use one to… Read More
2023-07-30 16:48
Apart from writing, my dogs, and life generally, my great
passion is Ballroom dancing. A totally off-the-wall pursuit, no doubt, but one
that truly lights me up. In addition to my primary in… Read More
2023-07-18 14:37
Ever wonder why no matter how much you browbeat yourself for doing something wrong or never getting ‘it,’ you just can’t seem to do better? Are you that incompetent? Heck… Read More
2023-07-04 14:40
Why should ‘intent’ matter anyway? Isn’t the point that you do what you’re supposed to do, what’s ‘right’ and that’s that? No, In this podcast… Read More
2023-06-28 17:23
We rarely enjoy change, even when we want that change. We
will usually find any excuse we can to avoid the necessary steps to whatever
that change may be.
For example, given that it is ligh… Read More
2023-06-20 14:37
Addiction isn’t just something that afflicts other people and involves heavy drugs. Most of us have some form of addiction, even if it’s to seemingly benign activities – li… Read More
2023-06-06 14:36
Wouldn’t it be nice if your child/teenager did just what you needed them to do, right when you wanted them to? YES! Unfortunately, that’s rarely the case, and most often you find… Read More
2023-06-01 23:10
Some days it feels like life is one endless hamster wheel, where
you go round and round and round in the same way day after day. You know the
drill: chores-work-kids-chores-bed, rinse and re… Read More
2023-05-16 14:27
How do we manage to stay so very connected with everyone on the planet via all our devices, yet somehow disconnect from what our own bodies are trying to tell us? We tend to ignore our bodie… Read More
2023-05-02 14:18
What is ‘character’ anyway? And what does ‘character’ have to do with you? ‘Character’ matters, it’s what tells you if someone is trustworthy or not… Read More
2023-04-28 22:41
We are a quick-fix species, we humans. We want ‘it’ –
whatever ‘it’ is – NOW! The money, the lover, the job, the car, the child to
behave, the partner to… Read More
2023-04-18 15:37
There are people who genuinely like you, are well-meaning and truthful about their attraction to you. Then there are people who only like you for what you can give them in the moment, and ar… Read More
2023-04-04 15:40
Wouldn’t it be nice if you could control everyone and everything so they did just what you needed them to do, right when you needed it? Maybe. The reality is, that will never happen. B… Read More
2023-03-30 15:59
You would think that a garden-variety cold would hardly lead to an epiphany. What can I tell you? That’s what happened! I ended up flat on my back, sneezing, coughing, not-sleeping, mi… Read More
2023-03-21 15:39
What is it about blame that makes it so very tempting? And what’s wrong with knowing you’re right and others are wrong? Surely they should know they messed up! The problem with b… Read More
2023-03-07 21:23
Does anything you do really matter? Why do you feel so often like an insignificant cog in some giant wheel? Where you don’t matter. In this podcast, you’ll discover that you real… Read More
2023-02-27 19:36
The Holidays are long over, New Year’s came and went, Super Bowl happened, Valentine’s Day is but a dim recollection, so what’s next? Ah yes, tax season . . . Let’s n… Read More
2023-02-21 15:42
You beat yourself up endlessly over the “I should haves” and “I should have known betters” that punch nasty holes in your otherwise happy life, aka the “shame&r&hell…Read More
2023-01-31 20:07
I learned an amazing new technique from my massage therapist Tammy recently. No, not yet another way of ironing out my body ‘kinks,’ although she is pure genius when it comes to… Read More
2023-01-17 15:38
Why is it that the apparently easy one-shot answer to your problem just caused a whole bunch of other problems? You’re exhausted! Understandably so, because you see, one size does not… Read More
2023-01-03 15:38
You resolve to be nicer, you get walked on. You resolve to be more assertive, people avoid you. What’s up with that? Why can’t you get this dealing with people thing right? Well… Read More
2022-12-28 22:15
The great thing about a New Year is we get to make a fresh start. The not-so-great thing about a New Year is we get to make a fresh start. Which we often abandon within a month or so. We the… Read More
2022-12-20 12:05
What you bring to life is what you get from it. No, that’s not just a cute platitude, it’s real. As in, you really do get what you give. But how? How exactly do you go about givi… Read More
2022-12-09 18:48
Love. Everyone wants it, in every aspect of their lives, from self-love to love of others, to love of how we are and what we do in the world. Too often, though, we are run by fear, not love… Read More
2022-12-06 12:10
Have you ever been caught between wanting to help a loved one, but worried that in your attempt to help, you’re just furthering their dysfunction? You’re not alone! It’s a… Read More
2022-11-29 16:16
It seems the topic uppermost in so many of our minds at this time of year is stress. AKA Holiday stress. Too many gifts to buy, too little money. Too many cards to send out/email, gifts to w… Read More
2022-11-15 12:22
It is said that whatever you focus on, grows. Great. Except when you find yourself focusing on yucky hurtful things, which just seem to magnify the misery in your life. How can you use the e… Read More
2022-11-01 20:08
I’m sitting on the floor in my office, cell in hand, eye-balling the Internet router refusing to connect to the Internet, while the Frontier tech troubleshoots the problem. Which occur… Read More
2022-11-01 12:06
Why is it you can never seem to find the love you seek? That special relationship that would fill you with such joy. What’s wrong with you? Nothing! What’s wrong is how you&rsquo&hell…Read More
2022-10-18 16:03
Do you ever feel like your life isn’t in your control? Like you’re living what everyone else wants you to and you’re not happy, and you don’t know what to do about it… Read More
2022-10-04 15:57
Olympic athletes use it, successful performers use it – guess what? You can use it too! When you have to have that conversation you dread, make that presentation for the first time, fa… Read More
2022-09-29 23:19
Nobody likes to be told they are wrong. We all believe, in our hearts of hearts, that we are right, no matter how logically misguided we may be. So why do we so often voice an objection to s… Read More
2022-09-20 15:57
How can you make sense of the pile of manure you’ve just dumped into? The upset or disaster you didn’t anticipate but is now making a mess of your life? Good question! In this po… Read More
2022-09-06 15:49
Is it ever just all too much? That the marriage or job or friendship you counted on to last forever falls apart? Or some dreaded disease afflicts your beloved child and all you can do is ran… Read More
2022-09-01 17:03
As I stood in line waiting for a table last week, a couple of people were leaving the restaurant. One of them was complaining about the food, the few waiters, and how long it took to get the… Read More
2022-08-16 12:04
Why can’t you get heard? Why, no matter how loudly, angrily or with tears abounding you speak your distress, your partner stands there like a stone? Aargh! In this podcast, you’l… Read More
2022-08-02 12:04
You can’t help yourself. When “stuff” hits the fan, you go down that rabbit-hole of dread and despair so fast, it not only hurts, it hurts bad! But what if there was a way… Read More
2022-07-31 22:58
Dr. Joshua MieleI was having a pity party the day before a Ballroom Dance Competition. It was hot, I was tired, my legs were sore, we hadn’t rehearsed enough, I’d never remember… Read More
2022-07-05 12:07
Do you ever feel that you can’t do anything right? That you can’t get things to go your way no matter how hard you try? Rather than deciding something must be wrong with you &nda&hell…Read More
2022-06-28 22:18
Amid the pandemic, when we were for the most part quarantined, urged to remain indoors as much as possible, I had an overwhelming urge to get out into nature. Living as I do in Southern Cali… Read More
2022-06-21 12:05
Why does it seem like just when life is going along so nicely, something pulls the rug from under you? Like losing your job, relationship, car? Why can’t things just stay steady on cou… Read More
2022-06-15 20:43
Are you tired of endlessly “working” on your relationship? Why should you have to be “working” on it in the first place? Good question! In this podcast, you’ll… Read More
2022-06-07 12:03
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2022-06-01 21:15
A dear friend was lamenting the state of the world these days, and indeed, the wars, shootings, political and legal wrangles are disturbing to those who want peace and prosperity for all. In… Read More
2022-05-17 15:34
I was given the opportunity to tell my personal story about the devastating fire that destroyed my home and the uplifting yet challenging journey that followed on the "Stories of Inspiring J… Read More
2022-05-17 12:04
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2022-05-03 12:06
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2022-05-02 19:57
So often, it seems like the world presses against us, day in day out. Work duties, family obligations, endless chores, finances, on and on. Who has time for anything as frivolous as delibera… Read More
2022-04-19 13:07
Why is it that sometimes in the best of times, you feel anxious? Like the other shoe is going to drop any minute, and sure enough, something comes along to bump you out of your happiness bub… Read More
2022-04-05 13:11
It’s tempting to compare yourself to others, you know, those slimmer-richer-happier-more successful others, yet whenever you do, you end up feeling awful about yourself. Lower than an… Read More
2022-03-29 18:27
The ability to leap tall buildings in a single bound is hardly useful these days, given the wonders of CGI. And yes, invisibility might still be useful, but what if you forgot how to be visi… Read More
2022-03-15 13:11
Why can some people express their disappointment, frustration or even anger with a loved one so easily, and yet confrontation is something that totally makes you cringe. You can’t go o… Read More
2022-03-01 15:46
My morning was supposed to be devoted to writing a report for one of the trial attorneys I consult for. The work takes concentration and focus, as my conclusions influence how the case is de… Read More
2022-03-01 13:06
Does it ever feel like you’re in a really bad movie, where no matter what you do, you end up in a sucky relationship? Over and over and over again? To where you want to give up on rela… Read More
2022-02-15 13:08
You don’t think of yourself as an overly sensitive person, but heck! When people think your ideas are ridiculous or stupid or whatever, or when they don’t see the value of your w… Read More
2022-02-01 13:11
Ever felt stuck, like you’re on a hamster wheel of never really getting ahead, whether it’s with finances, love, or just plain getting up in the world? Why is it that what you re… Read More
2022-01-18 13:10
Why is it you can’t seem to get any of your desired self-improvement goals going? Whether it’s losing weight, going to the gym, or getting to work on time, nothing you do seems t… Read More
2022-01-04 13:07
Does it ever feel like your emotions are running the show? Like your anger, anxiety, depression have just taken over your whole being? How are you to get on with what needs to be done when y… Read More
2021-12-28 16:45
To say it’s been a strange year is an understatement. Even stranger than last year, because most of us expected that 2021 would see an end to the global pandemic and political unrest… Read More
2021-12-21 13:06
To you, it seems like “be patient” is just another way of people saying “tolerate the stuff you don’t like.” Aargh! Who needs that? But patience is actually the… Read More
2021-12-07 13:05
What is it with people who won’t do what they’re supposed to do! Partners, children, co-workers, what is it, a conspiracy to get you to do everything yourself? No. Although it ce… Read More
2021-11-24 15:59
I came across a quote recently by Alan Cohen I think is pure genius: “When you reframe problems as projects, they will cease to bother you and begin to stimulate you.”Pure genius… Read More
2021-11-16 13:04
Why is it you can’t seem to get off the blame game? Whether it’s blaming other people for whatever’s going wonky in your life, or blaming yourself over and over again, it s… Read More
2021-11-02 12:07
Does it ever feel like your emotions are running the show? Like your anger, anxiety, depression have just taken over your whole being? How are you to get on with what needs to be done when y… Read More
2021-10-28 17:15
I recently had the pleasure of speaking with Kim Pagano on her radio program. We talked about overcoming adversity and finding strength in friends, family and sometimes perfect strangers. He… Read More
2021-10-28 16:28
Reading. Something we do every day, in many ways. We read street signs, we read directions, we read texts and emails, we read instructions on everything from setting up a baby crib to how yo… Read More
2021-10-19 12:06
It seems like life keeps punching you in the gut, whether it’s with annoying stuff like your car getting keyed, or serious stuff, like dealing with a partner’s terminal illness… Read More
2021-10-05 12:09
You’ve totally had it with people who won’t do what they’re supposed to do! You don’t like snapping at people or yelling at them, but what else can you do? You’… Read More
2021-10-01 22:05
We may not be out of the pandemic quite yet, but many of us are carving out a “new normal” for ourselves. Because let’s face it, life is not going back to what it was a mer… Read More
2021-09-28 12:08
What is it with some people that they refuse to respect who you are? Dissing pretty much everything from your emotions and your dress style to what you do for work? Why does it feel so bad?… Read More
2021-09-24 20:40
Does it feel like the stress in your life has increased exponentially since COVID? Are you all too often jumpy, anxious, upset, or just plain mad? How are you to survive all this, much less… Read More
2021-08-30 19:47
As we struggle to emerge from these long months of pandemic, it can be challenging to find the strength to keep going. It’s not just the constantly shifting COVID protocols, there&rsqu&hell…Read More
2021-08-17 12:05
Have you ever been scared to death of making a change, no matter how much you wanted it, because – heck – what if it didn’t work out? What if it made things worse? Yikes! A… Read More
2021-08-03 12:06
You are so over being the go-to person for everyone in your life: at work, at home, wherever. How can you free yourself of their demands without being a jerk? Great question! In this podcast… Read More
2021-08-02 20:05
The problem isn’t the problem. You read that correctly. Really. The problem isn’t the problem: the problem is when we forget to focus on the solution. Take Ben Lovell, for… Read More
2021-07-20 12:08
When did the idea of fun vanish from your life? What happened that turned you into this serious, perpetually worried, anxious person? Wouldn’t it be nice to have that feeling of &ldquo&hell…Read More
2021-07-08 15:19
Marilyn McCoo, at 77, returned to the soap opera “Days of Our Lives,” along with her husband, Billy Davis, Jr., to reprise roles originally featured in 1986 and 1987. How nice th… Read More
2021-07-06 12:06
Does the uncertainty of post-pandemic life have you chewing your nails to the quick and spending your nights tossing and turning? How can you survive in the midst of so much economic and soc… Read More
2021-07-05 15:04
Captain Paris Davis, at 81, is in line to finally receive the Medal of Honor this Vietnam Vet so rightly deserves. Captain Davis found himself the last American standing among a company of S… Read More
2021-07-01 22:43
Lunch at a restaurant! With a friend, live and in person! A restaurant with indoor seating, no masks required for the vaccinated. OMG, I thought I’d died and gone to heaven. After the… Read More
2021-07-01 16:01
Ginette Bedard, at 87, has run in over 350 races, including 44 half-marathons and 20 marathons. Her first was the New York City Marathon in 2002. Given that Ginette only started running at 6… Read More
2021-06-15 12:06
Does fear ever hold you back from asking for that promotion, or exploring that new hobby, or going for a better relationship? Is there a better answer than “Oh, well,” and making… Read More
2021-06-01 16:35
Remember that motto our elementary school teachers used to say, to hopefully prompt us into better penmanship or math or whatever we weren’t exactly excelling at? “Practice makes… Read More
2021-06-01 12:07
Really? How can worry possibly be a friend, given the rampant anxiety it plunges you into. But yes, used properly, worry is indeed a very valuable friend, which is what you will explore in t… Read More
2021-05-18 12:05
Why is it that people don’t understand you’re busy! But when you offer a quick apology for whatever it is they think you did wrong and zip off, they’re miffed. What’s… Read More
2021-05-11 17:01
As we slowly enter a post-COVID world, we can't help but realize that everything is different now—how we live and love and just plain survive is in question. My book, "I Survived… Read More
2021-05-07 15:05
The day I had to take the car keys away from my mother was traumatic. For both of us. Coming home from doing errands, my mom missed the driveway entirely and drove right up onto the front l… Read More
2021-05-04 12:06
Are you ever frustrated over how hard it is to change sometimes? Like sticking with a new diet or exercise plan, or de-cluttering your home, or being nicer to your kids or co-workers? In thi… Read More
2021-04-27 22:32
It’s easy to wonder about the future of our nation, or even the world, when we observe younger people engaged with their devices 24/7, seemingly uninterested in anything but the latest… Read More
2021-04-20 12:08
Don’t you just wish people would quit pointing out aspects of your personality as annoying? Yet you do recognize you have some traits that aren’t all that swift. In this podcast… Read More
2021-04-07 00:44
There’s the occasional dip into boredom, and then there’s boredom that seems relentless, dumping you into the grey of depression. In this podcast, we'll explore what boredom real… Read More
2021-03-29 18:09
If there’s one thing I noticed about our journey through the pandemic, now that we’re sloooowly coming out of it, is that complaining did absolutely nothing about it. Zip. Nada… Read More
2021-03-16 12:03
Just how powerful are the words you tell yourself, over and over? Does the yada-yada going on in your head matter? What if in this podcast, you discovered not only are your words to yo… Read More
2021-03-02 13:06
What if there was a way to grow more love in your life? What if you could, by the “doing” of love, grow the feeling of love? In this podcast, find out what the “doing&rdquo&hell…Read More
2021-02-27 22:37
Life has a tendency to throw us curves. More than a few these days, I’d say. In addition to all the upsets and upheavals caused by the pandemic and whatever part of the political/socia… Read More
2021-02-16 13:03
Ever wished life were that simple? That you could just dump worry and be happy? In this podcast, you’ll be introduced to a couple of easy techniques that can indeed release your worry… Read More
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