It’s International Women’s Day today, so it’s only fitting to talk about why it’s important to have some [wo]mentors in your life.
Being a woman who has grown up in the 21st century, I am privileged to be able to have the things that others before me had to fight so hard for. With that being said, as a feminist, I also recognize that there is still room for us to grow.
The women I’ve grown up with and surrounded myself with have each taught me different life lessons and skills that I find truly valuable. These thoughts have not only shaped who I am as a person today but have helped me gain a holistic perspective of the humanity that we are all a part of.
Women are generally described as nurturers. As a nurturer, they want to protect, encourage, empower and help grow the being they are nurturing. So how is that any different from mentoring? The support network women build around them serves as a mentorship net that nurtures the mentee with life skills, technical skills, career skills, personal growth and more that they may need.
Don’t seek a single mentor.
I once heard a talk where the speaker mentioned that one should never seek only a single mentor. As you discover yourself and your potential, you will look to connect with many inspiring individuals. So, it’s safe to say that you will cross paths with various people who will inspire, guide, teach, challenge, celebrate, support you and more. If you happen to find the one unicorn who can do it all for you, please introduce me to them! (I’d like to have one of those in my mentor basket 😊)
Over my small life of 25 years, I’ve met many incredible women who have managed to do all the things listed above and more in various ways. But that doesn’t stop me from wanting to build relationships with more future bauss women and potential [wo]mentors.
4 Things my [Wo]mentors have taught me
- Put yourself on the pedestal
As a woman we sometimes have natural tendencies to want to nurture and help others. Though there is nothing wrong with that, we shouldn’t forget about our number ones — US.
Remember that even though you have your daily responsibilities, you also owe it to yourself to be the QUEEN that you were raised to be. A little self-love never hurt nobody!
- Don’t settle
Know your self worth and be your own HYPE-WOMAN.
You know better than anyone else what you are capable of and what impact you can have. Have the confidence in yourself as if you were about to in Queen Bey’s words “Run this world”.
- Have a solid mentor network
Just like you grow your social media followers, look to grow your mentor network. You never know what you might learn, who you might meet, and the impression you will leave on others.
My very first mentor was my mother. I wouldn’t be who I am if it wasn’t for her. She taught me how to stand on my two feet and have the voice to stand up for what I believe in. Each day I’m inspired by many amazing women just like her around me. No matter our age, or where we are in our journey we can always use mentors to look up to. Have them support us and push us to be our very best selves.
- Learn something from everyone
A woman I constantly learn from and look up to is my co-worker and friend Sunita. Just yesterday, I heard her give the best possible advice to her younger self (and me).
“Remember that time you claimed space? You didn’t take space, you didn’t expect space, you claimed space because you simply wanted to solve a problem”
What are some things your [wo]mentors have taught you?
Anjali Arya is a Product Marketer at RL Solutions and a budding Medium blogger from Toronto, Canada. Have something interesting to share? or just curious about her work, follow her on LinkedIn, Medium and Twitter and start a conversation!
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