Phil Collins in Hyde Park
We wanted to go see Phil Collins.
Would have gone to The Royal Albert Hall.
but apparently the tickets sold out in 15 seconds
Or was it 18?
Whatever ...it would take longer to type in credit card details,
so not sure how that happens.
So we went to Hyde park...which was packed.
I haven't been to a festival for a very very long time.
Reading ....when I was a student nurse, about 18 years old.
There were as you can imagine, a fraction of the amount of people you get now.
and you were so close you could reach out and almost touch the artist on stage.
There was this bloke we had never seen before........
who had all this spikey hair and a voice like gravel.
they said he was set to be a big name....
The first time I ever saw Rod the Stewart.
It was great to hear Phil.
And see him on the large screens.
He doesn't sound any different live to recorded
Just wonderful.
But he was just a pinprick on the horizon.
It was great but....
I still would like to see him at the Royal Albert Hall.
Happy 40th Birthday to our lovely son.
So, how did that happen.
The little 4 year old boy I brought home in my bright yellow 2CV all those years ago.
Is 40 today.
4th of July
A great day for a Birthday when you live in the US.
We are so proud of the man he has become.
Wonderful Husband
Amazing Father
Menswear designer
Extraordinaire
Living in California
Here's ours story.
I've posted this before
So apologies if you've already read it.
Happy 40th Birthday to our Amazing Son
The Butterfly Effect
Ever seen it?
The film I mean?
Its a bit heavy at times....but it's a great film with an interesting message.
So.....a moment in your life affects not only you but everyone else around you.
Think about it......
No No...really go back over moments in your life.
If that hadn't happened or if that did happen..... it affects not only you but everyone around you.
It's mind blowing.
I often think about the effects of big moments in my life and how its changed not only mine but others...and vice versa
My son often used to say...
"Suppose someone else had adopted me?
I wonder where I would be.
I'm glad it was you."
I often think
"Supposing I hadn't adopted you. Where would I be?
I'm glad it was you too."
Here's our story.................
I always wanted children and in the
traditional sense I guess it was a baby.
Over time my ex husband and I
went through years of trying and tests.
Everywhere I looked, friends seemed to be having families.
Not just one child, it seemed, but two, three and sometimes four.
The envy I felt like a pain.
Life seemed so unfair to me then.
I avoided them like the plague at times,
so great was the void
Seeing them bouncing their
babies on their knees
only added to it.
Everywhere I looked, friends seemed to be having families.
Not just one child, it seemed, but two, three and sometimes four.
The envy I felt like a pain.
Life seemed so unfair to me then.
I avoided them like the plague at times,
so great was the void
Seeing them bouncing their
babies on their knees
only added to it.
We decided to look at adoption.
But we didn't know where to go.
One cold wet winters evening I was locked out of my house.
Forgotten my key.
Stood shivering on the doorstep.
My neighbour, who I didn't know that well, called out,
"Come and have a cup of tea until your husband gets home."
Her daughter was adopted.
I never realised.
Why would you?
Just a normal happy family.
"Why don't you try this adoption Society in Peckham? That's where we went."
But we didn't know where to go.
One cold wet winters evening I was locked out of my house.
Forgotten my key.
Stood shivering on the doorstep.
My neighbour, who I didn't know that well, called out,
"Come and have a cup of tea until your husband gets home."
Her daughter was adopted.
I never realised.
Why would you?
Just a normal happy family.
"Why don't you try this adoption Society in Peckham? That's where we went."
....Jay's was one of them.
After the talk, when everyone was chatting and drinking coffee,
we were looking at Jay's photo and I quietly said,
" Oh look how beautiful he is"....
" Would you like to find out more about that little boy?"
said the social worker who happened to be standing behind us
said the social worker who happened to be standing behind us
The worker assigned to our case hadn't
met Jay at that point.
On her return from seeing him for the first time,
she stopped off at a phone box driving back to London.
She sounded excited.....
she stopped off at a phone box driving back to London.
She sounded excited.....
"You are perfect for each other,
your temperaments match completely."
Something happened..to this day I don't know what it was.
We had met Jay only a few times
he had never been to our house and stayed.
Wouldn't happen today.
Wouldn't happen today.
I felt they were trying to move
him from his foster placement quickly,
for some reason known only to them.
On one of my visits the social worker
asked if I would take Jay home
the next time I came to see him.
| the card I never thought I would receive. |
This was only three days later.
I drove over in my yellow 2CV,
which was to become such a huge part of our lives.
We would go everywhere in that little dustbin lid of a car.
We would go everywhere in that little dustbin lid of a car.
On the way I stopped off for a cup of tea in Tenterden
and found a wonderful goose lamp in a shop, on sale....It became his night light..
..I recently found an identical one online...and bought it for his own baby daughter.
and found a wonderful goose lamp in a shop, on sale....It became his night light..
..I recently found an identical one online...and bought it for his own baby daughter.
When I arrived, Jay had pulled all his pictures off the wall
He was packed and ready.
Taking my hand,
" Come on Mum, lets go"
He was 4 years old at the time.
I tell you, I could barely see through the tears misting up the eyes
as he said those words.
I tell you, I could barely see through the tears misting up the eyes
as he said those words.
It happened in such a whirl and when I arrived home I was in shock.
I was working at a play school at the time
and was used to children of that age.
Arrogantly, I thought I would be brilliant.
But brilliant doesn't happen overnight.
I expected to feel a huge surge of love immediately.
It doesn't just happen though, does it?
It grows and like all relationships, you get out what you put in.
Suddenly, here I was with a little person 24 hours a day.
It was a shock to the system.
I felt emotional all the time.
I wasn't making a good enough job of things.
I didn't know what he ate, his likes and dislikes.
I struggled to know what to feed him..
I never cooked convenience food,
whole foods were my thing.
I remember in desperation asking
" Well, what DO you like?"
and in a quiet shy voice, almost a whisper, he replied,
" I.....I...... I do like cheesecake"
I made cheesecake, from scratch of course.
He picked at it
" I thought you said you liked cheesecake?"
" Yes, but only out of a packet!"
We got through those early hurdles and soon after,
I knew I loved this little boy,
more than I had loved anyone in my life. (Sorry Mum)
I never thought you could have such
feeling for a child you had not given birth to.
| I still have that yellow shirt LOL |
Years passed.....
One day home from college he said,
" My mates at college are really jealous of our relationship"
"Why Jay?"
" Because it's so strong and they say they
don't have that with their own mothers"
" How do they know?"
" Ma, they just see us together"
Over the years, like any mother
I have been really proud of Jay's achievements.
From an early age he took an interest in clothes,
loved his skateboard, loved to travel.
by the way......turns out half Jay's birth family had been in fashion
After studying for a menswear fashion degree,
at local Northbrook College, and graduating with flying colours,
( incidentally, the first college in Europe to offer the degree)
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