Let’s face it, everyone has the potential to be a “fitness guru”, it could be your friend, your 65 year old mum or a random insta celeb rocking washboard abs and a gleaming white smile. Back in the day, for many, it was Richard Simmons (if you have NFI, google him!) Now, whilst everyone has the potential to be an inspiration to many not all will be your cup of tea or actually help you to affect any change in your life.
When we are thigh deep in a fitness and health overhaul, it’s normal to want to find a person to idolise, someone to push us on, motivate us. Someone to be our guru. Are you making some bad decisions when it comes to who you pop up on that pedestal?
- Do you believe in what they are actually pushing? First things first, if you are resistive to practically everything you so called guru “pushes” then Houston, we have a problem! If your body recoils and your head just says “NO!” then perhaps this person isn’t the one for you. Fitness and diet fads can be cult like. Deep down if you feel that sicky feeling in your gut, move on.
- Would you want to have drink with this person? Seriously, would you want to spend social time with this person? We all know what that feels like- when we meet someone who is down to earth and doesn’t think of themselves as a “special” character. They are confident, engaging and comfortable in their own skin. No hidden agendas, just someone you could sit down with and have a laugh (and a wine!). Conversely there’s nothing worse than idolising someone who turns out to be an utter bore or nothing like they say they are. It all comes down to the unique self they portray.
- Are they providing safe advice? In the fitness world everyone is trying to sell you something- their new diet, their whizz bang workout plan, their supplements or their activewear. Is your guru just out for a quick buck or do they actually care and want to help you? It’s an important question to ask yourself. Be discerning. Make them earn your trust.
- Are they more than just a pretty face? Not that we are judging people by their appearance (actually that was what drew us in the first place, wasn’t it?) but do these gurus actually have experience in their field. Are they qualified? Ask for credentials if it’s important to you or simply ask if they’ve worked with people in your situation before. Look past the 500K followers and ask yourself “will this person be interested in helping me?”
Many people are intimidated by rippling muscles and the over enthusiastic spirit many gurus possess. Different strokes for different folks.
- Are they helping you get results? At the end of the day, we all want results. We absolutely don’t want to put our lives on hold for these results (that whole have your cake and eat it too business) but if you guru helps you affect change in your life for the long haul and you don’t have to turn your world upside down then you may have just found a keeper. So many of us are addicted to the feeling of a diet or a fitness overhaul/transformation but many only last a few weeks, some maybe a few months. To me, that’s not changing anything long term.
- Do they live by the advice they give? If your guru happens to be a spray tanned body builder who frequently eats out of tupperware containers and is always working on their “gains” and that’s someone you look up to and want to be- then AWESOME. If your guru gushes about drinking green smoothies daily but only eats burgers- something ain’t right. It’s that whole thing about talking the talk and walking the walk. They have to be AUTHENTIC. If you need a moderate person not someone who chops and changes frequently (like so many I personally see in this industry) then find that anchor(wo)man who will help keep you grounded. If you can find someone who causes you to change then hold on tight, you’ve found a keeper.
Are guru’s your thing? Who has helped you?
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