Our environment is not a healthy one for the young. Just about every person has issues, before they get through childhood.

We may all have issues, and we may have work to do, but we never did anything wrong. We got help. Bad Feelings, came from others.

It’s nobody’s fault. Our civilization is unaware of the real needs of life.

After we have been through trauma, our inner world presents a distorted picture of our lives, making it difficult, or impossible to recover. We no longer believe in the absolute purity of our real motives.

Most things we try, are going to make things worse. That’s because we invariably believe it’s us at fault. We believe we caused our own trauma.

It never was us, that messed up though.

Our lives spring from inside. Every living thing does.

Feelings, wishes, needs, fears, wishes, and loves, this all comes from deep within.

In all of nature we see all life fully supported in their efforts at survival, by mother nature. That’s how it’s supposed to work.

Every life feels powerful. Every life feels good.

Now, a question.

This is for all of us.

In our early years, did we ever feel supported in anything we were trying to do, while trying on our own, out of our own internal wishes and needs?

Remember, all other life on the planet feels full natural support for all their efforts. That’s the default condition for life.

An honest answer is going to be either no, or maybe sometimes.

That’s where life went wrong.

There is no such thing as a real “bad” thought. We may have thoughts, that we have come to believe are bad, but only because someone convinced us of it.

Encouraged on our own, and with full connection to our feelings, people are great. In our natural condition, we are without a doubt the kindest, most empathetic, thoughtful, and playful creatures on the planet.

Why then all this planet wide conflict? Why do so many feel like they have bad feelings?

Because we are easily damaged. Most, if not all of us are already damaged.

Life comes from inside. What happens when we don’t let it?

We hurt! To behave as others want us to, it becomes necessary to defeat our own Identity.

Our identity is supposed to drive the bus. It will never give up. That’s death to it! It’s who we are. It’s death to us.

Our identity talks to us through feelings. Our feelings hurt when our identity is ignored in favor of obedience. It’s not a little hurt, it’s life and death hurt. No other life insists on that degree of control over their young.

We were meant to be who we are. That’s the best person we can ever be. It’s also the only thing we can ever be. We are already the best of the best.

When we overcome the driving force of our identity, and act as requested, we hurt in a way that nobody can live with. We become forced to pull away from our own painful feelings.

At this point, and with the pressure from others to behave as they see fit, it is easy and safer to regard our own natural wishes, as wrong.

Our identity and feelings can no longer defend the purity of our real inner life. They have lost their power.

With that damage, we can now see our real selves as wrong. Now, and not until now, could we ever regard our real selves as “bad”.

We aren’t bad. We never were!

We are damaged though. In this damaged condition we might want to do things we know aren’t right. It’s necessary to be careful.

This a difficult position to be in, and it’s easy to view ourselves as bad. We aren’t bad. We are only damaged. It can be reversed.

How? We own those bad feelings and wishes. That will take us back. It hurts though.

They feel horrible. We have been avoiding these feelings. We are ashamed of them. We learned to be. That makes things worse.

As we accept and reintegrate, we regain more and more of our own reality. Our vitality returns, step by step.

We no longer feel “bad” lurking anywhere in our existence. We feel only good.

How did we get here? With the early feeling damage, adults tend to do what makes us feel better, rather than what works best. Anybody going down that road is not coming to a good finish. Our entire race is in trouble that way.

The answer once again? Own it. Own it all. Accept the hurt. It’s temporary. It’s the road back to being completely ourselves.

It’s getting our our feelings back, and consequently, connection with our identity!

Good luck on your journey.

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Norm.