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The increase in divorce rates in Pakistan is alarming. Pakistan is considered one of those countries where marital relations deal sacredly but unfortunately, due to changing trends and social issues, the ratio of divorces is increasing in Pakistan, continuously.

Introduction and Background:

There was a time in Pakistan when the word “Divorce” was taboo. Marital relationships are taken as a sacred affair in Pakistan; as Pakistan is an Islamic state. But unfortunately, it has been seen that in past years divorce ratio is increasing. This word is no longer taboo in Pakistan society. It has been seen that when women come to court they come with their parents which indicates that their parents are supporting them for this action. It has been recorded that from 2005 to 2011, 112,641 divorced cases have been filed and 40,410 separation ratings did occur last decade in Pakistan.

According to psychologists, socialists, and analyzers, there are several reasons for the breakup. Some say the big issue is over expectations of spouses after love Marriage. That’s why it is proper to say that 80% of love marriages decline. But on the other hand, some people suggest there is more divorce rate in arranged marriages of the middle working class because couples fall prey to misunderstanding, financial problems, lack of trust, etc. But overall the picture describes a lack of understanding and expectation causes to end the relationship. According to psychologists, increasing the educational rate in females also is a factor in increasing the divorce rate. Because education makes a woman financially as well as mentally independent so she less opts to compromise; she needs freedom instead of saving her home-so what she does.  

Early Marriages:

Early marriages occur in the case of love marriages; a little intimacy leads two persons to one long lasting relationship which they are unable to carry forever. They are led by their passion, they idealize each other, maintain affection bonds, and commit a relationship that is embroidered with a fictional and idealist border. But in the long run, in most cases, these marriages get flop in the period of two years because both stays fail to fulfill the expectations of each other. They react emotionally with each other rather than practically.  

The second reason for a flop of early marriages is lack of knowledge; knowledge to stabilize the relation. Both love birds think that it is enough to know each other which enables them to reach a successful relationship. They plan their future together, prepare a framework but in the end. They cannot do anything practically and prefer separation or divorce.

Forceful Marriages:

Forceful marriages are a sub-type of arranged marriages and seem common in Pakistan. In this type of marriage, boys and girls make forced to marry that person which they don’t like, or their heart is tucked somewhere else but they are unable to express; they marry somewhere else. These marriages are managed by forces. That’s why girls and boys stay unwilling to compromise with each other. In some cases, they are unable to develop understanding and in some cases, they intentionally don’t want to do that. They both stay reluctant to their relationship and display their conservation and short temper attitudes. There are several reasons for forced marriages. For example, for the purpose of visa, for children(in rural areas girls are often wed with senior counterparts because they need offspring) and commitments of house authority. In Islam, this act of marriage is strictly encounters and condemns.

This fashion of marriage may provide satisfaction to elders and make them easy regarding their next-generation but the guardians of the next generation are unable to compromise and fall into the matter of divorce and separation.

Emotional Marriages:

Emotional marriages do occur with emotional enforcement over youngsters. This type of marriage may be termed as a sub-branch of forced marriages. Because in this type of marriage boy or girl emotionally blackmail to do marriage with someone which they don’t want. In some cases, it is the case of emotions regarding oneself; it becomes the point of respect, claims,s and sometimes ego. So when this relationship is established, all charms and destinations get achieved. Then one of the members of a couple loses its interest in the relationship and thus falls into the matter of separation.

Low Self Esteem and Tolerance:

Lack of self-esteem and tolerance is also one of the major factors of divorce. Because it is observe that when marriage occurs, charm states there for a short time period. In this short time period, both girl and the boy pay respect to each other. And care for each other but with the passage of time. They fade up and place their bold argument carelessly, disgrace each other. They try to exploit each other with certain weaknesses and showing reluctance to compromise with each other and move on in life.

This situation is particularly in middle-class families where girls do jobs and spend more of their time outside, unable to attend home properly. This scenario not only fades into the husband but also sows a seed in his heart of lack of trust. He tolerated less than he should and showed insecurity regarding his self-esteem as finance of the house now also managed by his wife.

These matters seem to be less compromising on both behalf and they do argumentation, disgrace each other and hurt each other and to the extent decide to live separate.

Future Generations and Precautions:

The maintenance of marital relationships is not a secret. There is only a need to compromise and manage certain things in particular scenarios. There are several precautions and suggestions that have been advised by the psychologist and socialist to help with the working on relationships for couples.

First you have to breakdown this mirror which suggests to you that you are perfect and spend a more wonderful life separately. You should respond to your spouse with respect and honor. And, You must make your spouse realize that there is no one but only you who can care for him/her better than others. You should spend time with each other, at least once in a fortnight step out of the house and have dinner. You should negotiate on matters which disturb you. These are the fine and easy tactics to handle relationships successfully.

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