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How to make yourself strong mentally emotionally and live happy healthy life

Without adequate Mental Strength, life's inevitable challenges will likely fill you with self doubt and anxiety.



 Those uncomfortable feelings can lend way to negative thinking. And negative thinking will affect your behaviour which can inadvertently turn your catastrophic predictions into a self-fulfilling  prophecy.

Staying strong in the midst of hardship requires you to manage your thoughts, feelings, and behavior. 

 Psychotherapist and author  Karen R Koening says"Emotional strength comes from allowing yourself to be both independent and dependent. This means building up your internal resources and becoming comfortable seeking and accepting help".

Learning how to cope with life's misfortunes is a great way to build your emotional strength. 
Here are ways you can make yourself emotionally strong.

Honour The Strength Of Your Past

 According to zen Psychotherapist and neuromarketing strategisst Michele Paiva said  It can be hard to be emotionally strong if you keep living in the past. You gotta throw away those thoughts and accept the fact that those struggles made you who you are today — which is a strong, beautiful person. "Many times we have bitterness from the holocaust, slavery or even family 'traditions' of abuse. We can instead, honor the struggles and our cultures in a way that is positive.

 Don't discount the struggle, but see how it can be a way to honor the strength in our past. If we can honor the strength of the past, we are a result of that past, so we honor ourselves and become stronger. 

Make Healthy Choices

Most of your emotional strength usually comes from within. That means you'll most likely feel your best if you eat healthy and treat your body with care. "Know that every time you make healthy choices, you strengthen yourself. Did you choose an apple over a candy bar; one point for resiliency! Did you take a walk and enjoy the view? Another score for resiliency. Honor each time you create health," says Paiva.

Help Others In Need 

It sounds strange to help other people when you're trying to figure things out for yourself. But when you're altruistic, you can become strong because the care you show for others can resonate and leak into caring for your own life, too. "Helping others builds empathy and empathy makes us better people, period. That builds resiliency," says Paiva.

Accept reality


Acceptance doesn't mean agreement. Instead, it's about acknowledging what is happening from a realistic standpoint. So while you may not agree with things like racism, you can accept that it happens.

Digging in your heels and saying, "I shouldn'thave to deal with this," only wastes your valuable time and energy. Accepting what is happening right now--regardless of whether you think it's right--is the first step in deciding how to respond.

For example, one person stuck in a traffic jam says, "This isn't fair! Why do these things always have to happen to me?" His thoughts cause him to feel angry, frustrated, and anxious. He starts banging his fists on the dashboard and screaming at other drivers.

Another driver who is stuck in the same traffic jam reminds himself, "There are millions of cars on the road every day. Traffic jams are bound to happen sometimes." His point of view helps him stay calm and he listens to a podcast while he waits for cars to start moving again.

Accepting reality is about recognizing what's within your control. When you can't control the situation, focus on controlling yourself.

 Smile & Laugh More 

For myself, there's no greater feeling than genuinely laughing out loud. It's a great way for someone to flood their system with happy hormones and lift their spirits when they're feeling down. Opt to watch a funny movie, or schedule more dates with people that lift you up. The more you engage in this type of lifestyle, the better you may feel. "Laughing from a pure place (not sarcasm) helps to strengthen your lungs, heart, emotions and brings people toward you rather than away; a support system filled with smiles is a wonderful way to increase resiliency," says Paiva.

Behave productively.


Accepting reality helps you manage your thoughts and regulate your emotions--which are key to productive behavior. The choices you make when you're faced with problems determine how quickly you'll find a solution.

Even when you're faced with a problem you can't solve--like the loss of a loved one--you make choices about how to respond.

Unproductive behavior, like complaining or throwing a pity party, will keep you stuck. Those behaviors will rob of Mental Strength.

So it's important to ask yourself, "What's one thing I can do right now to help myself?" Whether productive behavior involves facing a fear, or doing something you really don't want to do, take action.

Give up one bad habit at least 

Letting go of a bad habit can help you work smarter, not harder. So rather than saying you're going to eat more vegetables, commit to giving up that bag of chips you eat at lunch every day. Giving up bad habits that rob you of mental strength, like feeling sorry for yourself, will ensure your healthy habits are much more effective.

Embrace Your Adversities
Don't beat yourself up when things don't go your way. Failing is a part of life and how you choose to challenge and accept it can truly alter your perspective in a positive way. "Practice some positive psychology and begin to embrace all of your challenges and adversities as your greatest teachers and forces for change," says holistic wellness coach Pax Tandon. 

Express Your Emotions

If you're feeling down, don't take that as a sign of weakness. Instead of sheltering your emotions, embrace them for what they are."Whether it's shedding tears or screaming into a pillow, giving yourself the freedom express and permission to be human will make you stronger from the inside out," says Tandon.

 Look For Patterns In Your Behavior

"Do you always end up feeling like a victim? Pick emotionally unhealthy friends or lovers and therefore end up unhappy? Sabotage your successes and achievements? Think you want to be alone, then hate it?" says Koenig about looking for patterns in your behavior. 

Whether you feel like a victim when something goes wrong or you talk down to yourself when you slip up, examine these situations and figure out why you do and feel these things to fix these emotions and make yourself strong.

Stop Judging Yourself

"Stop judging yourself. Lead with self-compassion and curiosity about why you have particular thoughts and feelings and why you engage in specific behaviors," says Koenig. Embrace your emotions for what they are and don't try to shut them out when you feel them. You don't want to engage in negative self-talk because it can make you feel worse about yourself.

Build Your Mental Muscle 
Building a mental strength is similar to building physical strength. While you may not think about your mental muscle until you need it the most, a crisis isn't the best time to build mental strength.
Similarly, you don't want to wait until you have to lift a heavy object to start building physical strength, right? Pumping iron for five minutes before you move a couch isn't going to do you much good. But steadily building strength over time can ensure you have the muscle you need when you have more weight to carry.

Think of mental strength in the same way. There will be times when you're going to need all the mental strength you can muster. So it's important to make mental strength a daily habit.

Don't overwhelm yourself by tackling too many things at once; start with one change you want to make. You can start new goals any time of the year. Maybe you'll decide to start a gratitude journal in January. Then, once you've turned that into a daily habit, commit to going to sleep 30 minutes earlier in February. 
Remember, genuine self-improvement isn't about setting a goal on an arbitrary date and declaring it a success or failure two weeks later. MENTAL STRENGTH TRAINING is about becoming a little better each day throughout the entire year.

Take Emotional Risks

The more you put yourself out there, the stronger you may become. You want to exercise your emotions even if it makes you feel a little uncomfortable. "Take emotional risks that feel manageable to put yourself in situations that make you mildly uncomfortable but that may help you grow emotionally," says Koenig.
Recognize Your Emotions

Don't punish yourself for having certain feelings. It's natural to feel down, angry or even jealous. When you're experiencing any negative emotions, thoughtfully examine them and figure what you want your next step to be. "Allow yourself to recognize and accept every emotion you have and then decide if you want to pursue this emotion or let it go," says Koenig says about recognizing your emotions.

Control upsetting thoughts.


Your mind can be your best asset or your biggest enemy. If you believe your negative thoughts, your self-limiting beliefs will prevent you from reaching your greatest potential.
Thinking, "This will never work. I'm not good enough," or, "I can't stand one more minute of this," will derail you from your goals. It's important to recognize when your inner monologue becomes overly pessimistic. Remember that just because you think something, doesn't make it true.

Talk to yourself like you'd talk to a trusted friend. When your thoughts become catastrophic or unhelpful, respond with a more realistic statement that confirms your ability to handle your struggles.

You can even a motivating or positive quote better still a mastra that you repeat during tough times. Doing so can help you quiet the negative chatter that threatens to drag you down.

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