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Top Five Ways to Get Rid Of Parasitic/Toxic Friends

Friends are supposed to be there for you, all the time, no matter what. However far too often people find themselves with a friend who is constantly hurting them. You may want to sever ties with them, but maybe you're afraid of the consequences, or just don't think its the right thing to do or the right approach.
But before you make that decision of getting rid of that friend, ask yourself these questions.

Are They consistently Negative?
Do They always find something wrong with life or something to complain about.

Are They selfish?
  These so called friends don't give a hoot about your needs or anything, for that matter. All they know is What They need from you and that they expect to get it. If you ever feel you can't say no to them, even for a completely valid and fair reason. Then it's time to start planning your way out.

Do They actually criticize everything I bring up?
 
Staying in a “friendship” with someone who is constantly making you feel bad about yourself is destructive to every part of your life even if it’s just having the confidence to get out on the dance floor. But when you have to take that big career risk, don’t you want a friend who’s there saying, “You can do it
  
Here are the best Five ways to get rid of those toxic friends

1. Mentally establish a different friend to take their place
  Get busy. Focus more on school, work or making plans with some of your friends that are fun– anything that makes you happy! The more time you spend doing things you enjoy or hanging out with people that make you laugh your butt off, the easier it will be to say no to your toxic friend because you now know how easy it is to be happy and have a good time. The less time you spend with them, the less control they have on you.

2. Detach yourself emotionally
Now that you are more than aware of how this person is and you are becoming stronger everyday, the easier it will be to detach yourself from the situation and their negative energy. If you realize these are just unhappy people, the way they put you down or make you feel will not have the power it did before. You will be brave enough to walk away and let go, which is exactly what you need to do.

3. Don't cut Them off all of a sudden
This will probably just enrage them which will end up in a huge blow out that will also probably involve them trash talking you from here to New York and making your life a general hell. It will only exacerbate the
situation.

4. Stick up for yourself
This is easy once you start setting boundaries and being honest, which are not easy to put in place if you’ve been Drama Queen’s door mat for years, but it must be done. If your toxic friend invites you out and you want to stay in tonight and read, tell them that. Tell them you’ve set aside this time for your new book, a trip to the gym, a nice relaxing soak in the tub after a hard week and stick to it! You’re allowed to live your life on your accord and any friend will totally remember you had a terrible time dealing with lay offs at the office the past couple days and say “Enjoy yourself!” Also, let these people know when you are not comfortable with the way they are acting.
The more you speak up about how it bothers you that they are saying terrible things about your mutual friend, the derogatory things they say about your family or whatever other negative ways they impact you, the more strength you give yourself.

5. Don't try to fix Them
This is a lost cause that will just leave you exhausted from going in circles. As we already discussed, poisonous people are never at fault. They will find a way to be the victim again and manipulate their way back into control of the relationship. These people will never change until they want to change themselves.

With these few ways you should be able to get rid of that toxic friend. Share this post with your friends in twitter and facebook if you find it informative.

I know you still have one or two ways to suggest. Kindly put it down in the comment box so we can know about it.



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