Two Afghans making calls while awaiting their flights
out of Afghanistan from Kabul International Airport
By Dr Hakim
19th Jan 2016
As I put together this photo journal of an Iraqi father and his dear son seeking asylum in Finland, I found renewed hope in relationships.
Relationships change our lives, and so, they change our world every day.
As relationships are built on various aspects of love, they are powerful. If we build more and more relationships, they will be an alternative power to the abusive power of governments and corporations, and that’s when governments and corporations will become more obvious in their efforts to sabotage relationships.
But, relationships are not an ‘oppositional’ power. They are invitational, and completely unarmed. Therefore, they will overcome, someday.
Kathy Kelly, Cathy Breen, David Smith-Ferri, Bob Alberts ( U.S. peace activists with Voices for Creative Nonviolence ) and I visited Mohammad and Omar in Helsinki from the 7th to the 14th of Jan 2016.
Being a friend of the Afghan Peace Volunteers, I was also grateful for a chance to briefly meet three Afghans. Gul Agha and his daughter, Zainab, are Finnish Afghans who were Refugees 15 years ago. Jafar arrived in Finland just three months ago.
We were hosted by Salla Nazarenko, the Executive Director of Physicians for Social Responsibility in Finland.
First, a brief about how the individuals in this journal connected with one another.
Kathy, Cathy, and David have been to Iraq at various times since 1996 as part of Voices for Creative Nonviolence’s work to resist U.S. economic sanctions and wars in Iraq, and at different times over those visits, they got to know Iraqi mechanical engineer Mohammad, now 46 years old, and his son, Omar, who turns 18 on the 19th of Jan. Bob Alberts has been supporting the work of Voices for Creative Nonviolence over the past few years. Kathy and David have visited me and the Afghan Peace Volunteers in Kabul many times since 2010.
Mohammad and Omar fled Iraq’s U.S.-driven sectarian war as refugees to Europe and arrived in Finland on the 20th of September 2015, after a harrowing two-month trip over land and sea.
Salla Nazarenko, who lives in Finland with two daughters, Ilse and Amanda, had written to Cathy after reading Cathy’s article on Mohammad and Omar.
Each person has family and friends who colour these friendships, pencils, water colours, oils, crayons…
Our recent war and peace story
After many empires, of different names ( ethnicities ) and continents over many centuries, and while the British and Russian empires seemed head-strong, World War I broke out.
It was not what it was meant to be, the ‘war to end all wars’. Though human resolve to ‘remove the scourge of war from future generations’ did grow, as stated in the 1945 post-WWII UN Charter, one of many Cold Wars ensued, and militarism became normal.
Today, new ‘types’ of military wars, along with economic and environmental wars, are fueled by the power and money interests of an increasingly small percentage of elites. Where ‘war’ isn’t a convenient word, ‘R2P’, ‘kinetic action’ and other names pacify us, more like, ‘maintain’ us.
The people suffer.
Very large numbers of people.
In 2015, mainly to escape wars, a record 59.5 million Human Beings were refugees, 86% of them seeking refuge and/or asylum in ‘developing’ countries, and only 14% in developed countries, including Europe.
The top five origins of refugees who have applied for asylum in Europe are Syria, Afghanistan, Kosovo, Iraq and Albania.
The top five EU countries in terms of asylum applications per 100,000 local ( EU ) population are Hungary, Sweden, Austria, Finland and Germany.
All these figures say practically nothing about the number of relationships involved in and affected by what must be one of the largest, nonviolent people movements in history, people choosing not to fight, but to take the risk of running away from what the United Nations High Commissioner for Refugees reported as our ‘world at war’.
Crowds, especially at travel stations, literally cross one another’s paths, but we don’t converse. We seem only to be able to handle input on the digital screen, not face-to-face. Even ‘at war’, we no longer wish to fight face-to-face; as far as possible, we do the killing remotely.
Some of us are even ‘at war’ with those ‘fleeing war’. We are wrapped up, working hard to make a living, so we are no longer able to question and address the root causes of human conflict. We presume that the war-refugees are running away from wars caused by the refugees themselves! Irrationally, we ‘feel’ that refugees are as dangerous as the ‘ISIS, Al Qaeda or Taliban extremists’ they are fleeing from.
Our vision is limited to our screens and ourselves.
But there is hope, re-ignited when we take a minute to call on the power of relationships, in asking one another, “Do you miss your family or friends?”
“Are you hurting?”
I not only notice the mobile phones
that EVERYONE has.
the tender conversations they carry
in homes of love:
“Has aunt recovered?”, and
“I’ll call as soon as the plane touches down.”
At Helsinki Central Railway Station
I imagine more:
“I miss you already.”
“Please make sure your phone is charged…,”
feelings I had exchanged before.
Even at airports and travel stations,
where many people scrape paths,
Americans, Chinese, Russians, Middle Easterners,
we don’t relate.
It’s as if we were ‘enemies’.
Cathy Breen and David Smith-Ferri in the Finnish cold!
It was minus 24 degrees celsius outside in the Helsinki streets,
and the Kabul cough inside me seemed eager to empty
Afghanistan’s pollution and pain
past the scarf Ghulam had gotten me,
into the migratory paths of
tense locals and refugees,
all preoccupied, and lonely at times.
Mohammad de-stressing in the cold
Though, when I wrote to mom and dad,
I didn’t tell them about the cough.
Some burdens are
better borne alone,
or so I think.
But why do I fear
that loved ones can’t handle it?
If they can’t, who can?
Kathy Kelly and Cathy Breen catching up with Mohammad’s wife
“All of you, take care of my son!” exhorted Omar’s mother,
Nasrin, like all women,
has a heart that’s bigger than the world.
Her voice came in strong waves,
as Cathy, David and Kathy assured her,
“Omar’s such a fine boy; she takes after you!”
“He’s helping to cook,”
in a centrally-heated apartment, so “he’s warm, don’t worry!”
Salla, taking her daughters out to a friend’s place
Salla, and her Finnish friends
gave unconditional hospitality to us,
then strangers and refugees,
leaving us keys,
and use-as-you-may cooking condiments,
even a Finnish sauna in the men’s apartment!
Mohammad Skyping calling his family
That’s when I saw Mohammad and Omar’s strength,
their sustenance and lifeline:
it comes through their phones,
calls, usually twice a day,
to be nourished by the siblings, and Mother,
because, we all know this,
love empowers us,
and keeps us alive.
Mohammad photographing an art exhibit depicting the ’human-less’ sea at armageddon
Especially when we go ‘mad’,
like when, Shereef, their traveling companion,
went berserk in the smuggler’s boat,
knifing the inner air tubes of the dinghy,
as if beckoning death to come sooner,
shouting, “I can’t breathe!”
Mohammad, a mechanical engineer, on Ai Wei Wei’s art exhibit in Helsinki :
“Our power structures cut through the people’s tables, but are inherently unstable.”
didn’t speak for 10 days after the
journey through ‘civilizations’,
because we can’t cope with who we are,
what human society has become,
and the ‘deserts’ of antagonisms.
We have no more words.
Omar navigating another world in Finland’s Sea Life
“Hakim, how do you say ‘how are you’ in Dari?”
He noted my answer in Arabic,
as he wanted to pronounce it right
to Rasul, an Afghan in the same refugee centre.
Later, when I met Rasul,
I was ushered into his circle,
shown his bunk room,
as if I was a family member.
“Hakim, she is my wife, and he my son,”
wearing my gift of a Borderfree scarf.
We’re all ‘awakening’ to the wishes of the same blue sky above us
So, more and more human beings now understand
that we all want to be happy and safe,
but that we’re in the same sinking boat,
while a few angry and reckless human beings,
take lots of money
with advertisements and slogans,
and they wage war.
Mohammad and his son called home to ask ‘ohm’ how to cook okra with mutton
They steal from, profit from,
kill and bomb everyone else but themselves.
So, what’s the missing ‘glue’?
What’s stopping our ‘awakening’
from changing the ‘cold, unequal’ status quo?
We’re not relating.
We don’t call one another,
like Omar called his ohm, his mother,
to ask about things we don’t understand,
like how to cook mutton with okra
Bob, David and I said our goodbyes to Mohammad and Omar
I hugged Omar goodbye,
as I should have 13 year old Afghan street kid Ibrahim,
who drowned crossing from Turkey to Greece,
but still gifting those he related with
I had struggled to close Ibrahim’s story,
but now I re-discovered that relationships needn’t close,
as they are part of a power and a life
that extends way beyond the physical.
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