We all know that 50 percent of marriages end at the lawyer’s office. An estimated 41 percent of first marriages end in divorce, while 60 percent of second marriages failed. In the US a Marriage ends every 36 seconds. For Hollywood these numbers are even more depressing moving to 70 percent. With all the news of people splitting up, what can do to make our relationships last? Zig Ziglar said “Many marriages would be better if the husband and the wife clearly understood that they are on the same side.” He was right there is no unity when we feel we are own opposing sides. Try five practical ways to keep it real, and keeping your relationship together forever.
My Way Buddy, So Deal
End a relationship fast by demanding your own way all the time. This gets so old, that you might not even realize that the person is starting to withdrawal or giving up hope. Grandparents.com shared that “Knowing when to argue (the right way) and when to make a compromise can make for much smoother sailing and a stronger bond with your spouse.” Compromise and give in once in awhile. If your partner gets so sick of it, they might say "yes" to you just to shut your mouth. After awhile--this will go south.
Take a lesson from others, who found out the wrong way--be flexible if your spouse is running late or forgot to clean the lint filter. Don’t fight about the small stuff. Ask how their day was, before they are loaded with chores, yelled at for making dinner cold. Nothing really goes as planned anyway, so why bother with the task of getting upset with them or yourself. This also applies, staying angry for days over the small things over time will stress you both out--so chill.
Do Hobbies Together
You might not share the same interests, but at least try to golf, play video games, or something that they like to do even if it sucks. There will be things you both dislike like running errands, shopping, or going to a sports events or seeing a band playing you might not care for. They will love that you at least tried, and perhaps feel bad for you and buy dinner. Consider this a time of growing as a person as sacrifice well as is part of life. Doing fun activities together will deepen the bond instead of one texting, and the other doing something else.
Never stop saying “please” or “thank you.” Once this is done, you’ve taken that person for granted. Show appreciation and affection daily. This will go a long way. Many guys don’t open the doors anymore for their lady, and ladies, say “thank you” once in awhile. Let your man know you appreciate him for what he does for the family, and his sacrifices.