Marriage is hard work and all of us have times where we feel overwhelmed and that we need some help to connect and love each other better. I want to share 10 tips for spicing up your Marriage, that have worked well for us. We are not a perfect couple and have the same struggles that many of you have. We have to fight to glorify God in our marriage, above ourselves. We do realize that with God at the center of our marriage it is possible to be happy, to enjoy your spouse, to be best friends and to love being married. I
believe these tips will help your marriage dramatically, if you are willing!
This is seriously the solution to so many issues! So many spouses feel unloved, unwanted and this eliminates those insecurities that take place in all of us.
Whether it is a hug, a kiss or a hand resting on your leg as you watch TV together, physical touch communicates so much. We are all battling so much during our days apart from one another and when we come back together that affection helps us feel safe, loved, and closer to each other.
Action: Rather than sitting in separate places to watch TV tonight, sit next to each other and cuddle. When you get home from work or your husband comes in (even though I know your tired) get up and hug or
kiss him, showing him you care and are excited to be with him.
2. Pray together and for each other.
There are times we do a great job at this and times where we fall all the way off the wagon. There is no comparison to the times we pray together before the day starts, we are more connected in every way and feel more encouraged individually to conquer whatever the day may hold.
Also, take time throughout the day to say a quick prayer for your spouse. They are dealing with the same struggles that you are dealing with and you know better than anyone else what they truly need prayer for, even if it is to be a better spouse! PRAY! There is so much power in prayer! I’ve seen it truly do miracles in our marriage!!
Action: Send a text telling your spouse that you’re praying for them! It might be all the encouragement that they need for that day!
3. Plan a date!
Dates are very important in every marriage. If you have little ones, do a kid swap with other friends that will watch your kids and then help them out at a later time. If you have family locally, your even luckier!
Even if you don’t have kids, it is equally important to plan and get out of the house together.
There are seasons where we plan them more than others, but when we go it is so reviving for me and our marriage as a whole. It is good to try to do them regularly or everything will seem to take priority instead.
There is something about getting out in a romantic setting where the pressures you both share of finances, home, children, jobs are less stressful and you can talk about dreams and aspirations in a relaxed manner.
Get dressed up cute, like you were dating, to show them you truly care about being attractive for them.
Action: Pick a date on the calendar this month! Pick a restaurant or activity to do together and go!
4. Initiate Intimacy
This will do wonders for your relationship!! Especially for your husband! This is his greatest need! and it is important to care about making them feel loved just as much as we want to feel the same. It is amazing the difference it makes on how your Husband will treat you, appreciate you and love you when your sex life is where it needs to be. Initiating that you want to have that time with him makes him feel wanted and loved more than anything else you can do.
I know this is a struggle for many moms and finding time when being exhausted at the end of the day but, it really just depends how important it is for your marriage to grow and get better.
Action: No time is better than the present to go and initiate a time of intimacy with your husband.
5. Praise each other.
All of us struggle with feeling inadequate at various times in our lives or feeling like we aren’t doing anything right. Satan constantly bombards us with “your not doing enough” “your failing in this area of life” and “you can’t do anything right” types of thoughts. As husbands and wives we have to fight against those thoughts for our spouse. This is done by encouraging each other and looking at what the other person is doing right. We all have room for growth but, we already know those areas. We need a voice that silences
our insecurities and has faith in us.
Action: Send a text today to your spouse telling him how grateful you are for all he does, for being a good dad, or telling him he’s your best friend. An “I love you” text goes a long ways.
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Hi Friends! My name is Hava and I’m a Jesus follower, husband lover, full-time mother and a friend supporter. I have 3 boys and have been married for 11 years! I look forward to sharing tips on homemaking, recipes, saving money, and relationships! I hope this blog makes your life easier & more joyful in the midst of the daily chaos. Enjoy!