“What will they say?” a question that has become the driver of everyone’s life in the present world. It has been so imbibed in our decision-making process that we have started living our lives according to what others deem right for us. Every decision in our life has this element in it. Be it a minor decision as to what to wear or a major one, our career choice for an instance.
Just look around you, every person you see is doing something or the other and now observe; you’ll see that all of them have this in their mind. On the contrary imagine a child, who does what he wants to, regardless of what people may think. He does anything anytime, he wants to taste mud, he will. If he wants to roll on the floor, he will. But as we grow up, we are conditioned to these judgments. It so seems that the word mature, is meaning that you do things accordingly so that people perceive you right. If you are living your life according to others perception. Then why call it YOUR life!
Judging others is one thing that everyone does. It’s in the Human nature and there is no denying the fact. Whenever we see someone and something we tend to analyze it or Judge it. From how a person dresses, to how he walks, or the way he talks and every other thing. People judge you when you do things, literally everything. Even we are a part of that crowd and this judging is just a reciprocation sort of phenomenon that every human faces. At the end everyone judges everyone. Many people change the way they do or want to do things just because they think they will be judged wrong.
There is this quote I read and still remember:
“इंसान खुद की नज़रों में सही होना चाहिए , दुनिया तोह भगवान् से भी दुखी है ।”
Well this means that a human should be right in his own view as the world is not even satisfied with god. You should simply do what you want or what your heart speaks out to you. Just know that whatever you do, people are going to judge you any which ways. For some people you will be right and for others you will be wrong. This all depends on the degree of similar thinking that people have with you.
While saying that you should do whatever you feel right, still there are things refraining from which adhere to your own manners and decency. This should be followed because it is assumed that all of us will think of these certain acts to be wrong. Everyone has a different view as to what is right and what is wrong. Listen to yourself because what your gut says is always right, and if you think that your decision is right then go ahead and take it up. Because no matter how right you are, you are going to be judged. So don’t adapt your life according to others and instead do whatever you think you should. And yeah, let them judge.