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Special Needs for 5, please

The children that we have adopted are "special needs". Medically, we Deal with Klippel-Feil Syndrome, Dandy Walker Syndrome, Hirschprung's Disease, shunted Hydrocephalus, severe Scoliosis, Kyphosis, Synkinesis, Chiari Malformation, partial deafness, and one missing kidney. Learning and behavior-wise, we deal with ADHD, ADD, developmental delays, possibly Asperger's, and fetal alcohol and drug issues. Emotionally, we deal with attachment issues, pre-adoption abuses, and early puberty to boot!!
Now, the tricky part is that in reality, we ALL have our "special needs". I am organizationally challenged. I take on more than I can handle. I begin many projects, but finish few (kind of like contests that warn "many will enter, few will win")!! I don't always discipline with consistency. Oh, and I began menopause about 7 years ago at 40, and am still flashing! To top that, my husband is bi-polar (if you know what that is about, you realize what a wild ride it is), which has reared it's head often since he suffered from carbon monoxide poisoning about three years ago. He also deals with thyroid and hormonal issues from a pituitary tumor they discovered after the carbon monoxide poisoning. And of course, there's always the family, job, financial, spiritual ups and downs that we all have.
So, we are indeed a "special needs" family. All of our needs affect all of our family. But that's okay. We will all learn acceptance, compassion, and hopefully learn to laugh and cry - together. Regardless of each individual's issues, we are together a family. That's the bottom line. In the words of a very wise woman I know, "It is what it is." This nugget of wisdom helped me to understand that to wish and worry, wish and worry about things we cannot change is useless. Instead, concentrate on working around "it" with as much love, grace, and acceptance as we can muster. With prayer. God does not often erase our problems, but He will help us to cope with them.



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