There are several reasons why we may be stuck in life, afraid to move Forward. It happens to everyone, but not for the same reasons. It seems like people make up excuses for why they can’t do something so nothing ever changes. If only they would think of the possibilities and where they could be at if they strived for what they wanted!
If one of these reasons is stopping you, now is the time to work past it so you can have a brighter future with a life you love.
1. Being Comfortable
Being comfortable is the most common reason I hear for not Moving Forward. Change is scary so people don’t even try. They see their future as something better but when it comes time to actually put in the work to get there, they fall short.
We follow the same routine every day, without a second thought about adding just one or two more daily habits that will help us accomplish more. Get out of your everyday routine. Find hobbies that interest you, learn new things every chance you get and figure out steps you need to take to get the life you want. We can’t stay comfortable our whole lives.
“Do one thing every day that scares you” -Eleanor Roosevelt
2. Worrying Things Won’t Go Right
Not everything will go right in life but that is how we learn along the way. Fretting about what could go right or wrong instead of making a Realistic plan and going after what you want is holding you back. Think about all of the people that have inspired us! If they worried about what could have gone wrong, they never would have gotten to where they are now. But they took that chance and are helping thousands of others to realize their potential and go after what they want.
If you truly want something, consider the things that could go wrong so that you are prepared. You don’t want any surprises but don’t let those things stop you. Find ways around obstacles and plan accordingly. Maybe it’ll take a few tries to get it right. Maybe you need to learn more because you have never done it before. Or you need friends to support you and keep you motivated. Whatever you feel may stop you, find solutions around them.
“Sometimes you have to stop worrying, wondering, & doubting. Have faith that things will work out, maybe not how you planned, but just how it’s meant to be.” -Unknown
3. Not Realizing Your Potential
It’s amazing what people can do when they really put their mind to it. Even if your goals are really high, with a plan and steps to get there, anything is possible. The possibilities are endless with what people can do, as long as they are willing to put in the work.
Try telling yourself you can do a little more today. And once you get into the habit of doing those, add a little more onto it again. Don’t push yourself too far and be stressed. That’s not the point of this exercise. But the small things you do can add up over time. Keep the big picture in your mind at all times and you may find yourself doing more than you expected.
“Successful and unsuccessful people do not vary greatly in their abilities. They vary in their desires to reach their potential.” -John Maxwell
4. Not Having A Realistic Plan
By realistic plan, I am talking about having a goal and a timeframe that you want to complete it by that is doable. Nothing will burn you out quicker than having a plan that is impossible to reach in the timeframe you were hoping for. You will become unmotivated and give up entirely when we should just break it down into smaller steps.
For example, if your goal is to pay your home off in three years but you would need to put an extra $1,000 into just the principle every month in a tight budget, that is not very realistic. But if you acquired a second job where you could earn the majority of that money, along with cutting back on your expenses, it becomes realistic.
Or if you want to save up an emergency fund of $1,500. It’s probably not realistic to save all of that in the first few checks alone. But if you gave yourself 10 weeks to save that up, that’s $150 a week that you would need to put that aside. It gives you something to work for instead of just giving up when you aren’t able to save it all right away.
“Pick a goal, make a realistic plan to reach that goal, work through each step of the plan, and repeat.” -Georges St-Pierre
5. Letting Everyone Else’s “Limit” Be Your Limit
Don’t ever think that someone else’s limit is your limit. If they tried but failed, try changing the steps you use to get there. Or practice until you are good at it. But never think that you can’t do something because of another person. You are not them. People have their own talents or interests, making them unique, and capable of performing better in certain areas. Sometimes it just takes persistence and patience.
You owe it to yourself to at least try. Your goals and passions should never be torn down by other people’s opinions or their outcomes. This is your life and you choose how to live it. Don’t live it based off of other people’s expectations.
“You need to ignore what everyone else is doing and achieving – your life is about breaking your own limits and outgrowing yourself to live your best life. You are not in competition with anyone else; Plan to outdo your past, not other people.” -Unknown
6. Waiting For The Right Time
There is no right time to start! The longer you wait, the longer it will take you to get to what you want to accomplish. Start where you are at and start now! I can’t stress this enough. Maybe you have a lot going on or maybe you aren’t sure how to do some of the steps. Do what you can with the time you have now. If you need to learn more along the way, figure it out as you go. You don’t want to be the person who postpones what they want out of life because it’s “not the right time”. Run after your dreams, retry as many times as it takes and prove to yourself that you can make it the right time.
“Do not wait. The time will never be just right. Start where you stand. And work whatever tools you may have at your command and better tools will be found as you go along.” -Napoleon Hill
7. Never Changing Anything But Expecting A Different Result
We make life how we want it to be, whether we are aware of it or not. Only you can go after your dreams. You will only ever get back as much as you put out. If it’s always the same, you will always get the same in return.
If you plan doesn’t work, figure out what went wrong. Figure out what you can improve. Whether it’s a part of your plan that needs to change or just your mindset along the way.
“If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you will fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.” -Jim Rohn
8. Expecting Everyone Else To Help You
This is a dangerous mindset to have. The people who do this are the ones who have no safety net, don’t consider what could go wrong and make decisions quickly without thinking of the consequences.
It’s nice when others are able to help you when you need it. I’ve seen countless times though where people just don’t make a backup plan because they think they can rely on others to help out whenever. It’s nice when people can be there for each other, don’t get me wrong. But what if something comes up and they aren’t able to help you out? We need to be self reliant because even though people may want the best for us, it’s also stress on them to always need them for something. You won’t get very far in life if you constantly rely on others.
“People aren’t always going to be there for you, that’s why you need to learn to handle things on your own.” -Unknown
9. Giving Up After One Try
Not everything will work out after one try! Or even the first few tries for that matter. But if it is something you really want, go after it, no matter how many times you need to start over. Sometimes all you need is to change the plan or steps in the plan to get the outcome you want. If it helps you to keep going, find friends who can push you to keep going. Especially if they are interested in doing the same thing that you are. Also leaving little quotes where you will see them throughout the day will motivate you and remind you why you started in the first place.
“If the plan doesn’t work, change the plan but never the goal.” -Unknown
10. Not Constantly Expanding Your Knowledge
Expanding your knowledge will not only give you more confidence to move forward but will help you figure out what really interests you. You may find that the more you learn, the more hobbies or activities you find out you enjoy.
You can learn through any way that interest you. Whether it’s reading, talking to people, listening to podcasts or watching a How-To video. Anything you want to learn (and eventually apply to your life) is possible to learn, all at an affordable price. Don’t let a lack of knowledge stop you from achieving more.
“Without knowledge, action is useless and knowledge without action is futile.” -Abu Bak
Which of these ten mindsets have stopped you from moving forward and how did you get past it? I’d love to hear from you!
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