Your success starts when you decide to get up from YOUR bottom.”

I want you to try successful dining & conversation with Positive Steps Into Social Mobility: Awareness and Empowerment at my risk. Because I know it works but you don’t …yet!

If you aren’t 100% satisfied, and I mean even 1% unhappy, I want you to immediately halt any form of introduction advancement and dining experience with potential contacts and instead return to your hit and miss, ‘stuck in a groove’ situations at events. I mean it, you don’t have to do anything else, just stay exactly where you are peddling on the same old, same old ‘wheel of almost’. I don’t even want your money for the subsequent events of Positive Steps Into Social Mobility. You can keep your money. Give it away to someone else who will hold your hand and open doors for you for US$10,000’s.

I value our relationship and my reputation for more; way beyond more, than a few thousand pounds, euros, dollars, yen, etc. So please, try successful dining & conversation with Positive Steps Into Social Mobility: Awareness and Empowerment for 1 evening (even though you will gain rewards and opportunities during your lifetime with this, I am giving you 1 evening to be completely sure and utterly satisfied with this quintessential collection that you can read in the comfort of your own home, accessing friendly personal guidance from tried and tested situations on the positive steps to your foundation on how to successfully participate; as a guest or as a host/ess, in dining situations and enable introductions with ease with Positive Steps Into Social Mobility: Awareness and Empowerment). I won’t take anything less!

Attention! Opportunities will begin to unfold for you once you start on this path. Are you ready for opportunities in your life right now? If YES! Take the next step below. If No. I hope that the hamster 'wheel of almost' continues to deliver the comfort that you are so fond of peddling each and every day. Social mobility is not for you.

So go ahead, buy now – you have plenty of time to go through everything and decide if this is the right fit for you. But you’ll never know unless you take a chance and invest in yourself.

The question is this, WHY should you take the time and effort to make any steps into social mobility? 

Let me explain why social mobility can kick ass and infuriate the ‘others’ who try to hold you back from your opportunities.

Especially when others around you have never taken any steps in achieving more for themselves or their family. 

OR 

That wanting to be better in your life is seen as being an ‘upstart’ from those around you. 

OR   

When the purpose of combined steps amplifies opportunities to seek you, you run away from it

Social Mobility (definition and meaning)

Social mobility is the movement of individuals, like you.  Families like yours.  Plus, other categories of people similar to you who are within or between a social strata in a society.  The mobility is a change in social status relative to your social location within a given society. 

The movement can be in a downward or upward direction.  There are numerous methods and techniques to access social mobility through Absolute Social Mobility and Relative Social Mobility.

Absolute social mobility refers to the overall numbers of people like you who end up in a different layer of stratification from that of their parents.

Relative social mobility refers to the differences in opportunities for someone like you in attaining a certain outcome, regardless of overall structural changes.

The use of social mobility for you is important in providing pathways to greater equality in societies with high social inequality.

Social Mobility is most often measured in terms of a change in economic mobility, such as changes in income or wealth.  Occupation is another measure used in social mobility.

In general, social mobility is highly dependent on the overall structure of social statuses and occupations in a given society.  Different times of history and different locations around the world place variables on social mobility, such as your gender, ethnicity and age in order to regulate the level of movement into social mobility.

As we are at the start of the 21st Century, the momentum for awareness and empowerment from social mobility is being awakened in ordinary people who see a brighter future for themselves through various advancements, for example technology and spirituality. 

You desire a better future for yourself.  You want a better future for yourself.  You must have a better future for yourself. 

Ordinary people desire a better future.  Ordinary people want a better future.  For themselves.  For their children.  For their community.  This is as more and more people become connected and knowledgeable of the potential for opportunities.

Do you know the saying "God helps those, who help themselves."  Well, it is true.  You shall know how to help yourself.

It is a pleasure to welcome you to Positive Steps Into Social Mobility – Awareness and Empowerment.

Hello,

My name is Diana Rose Mary Thulare.  You can call me Diana.

I am going to tell you how I engaged with social mobility and the people who tried to trample on me.  Including how groups of individuals with fear based egos try to trample on people like me. Trample on people like YOU.

Whatever you do in life, you are bound to experience social mobility as you move from one set of circumstances to the next, circumstances with co-incidences that enables you to move ahead in your life.  For example, having a trade.  Having a trade is a social mobility.  Whether it is from the University of Life or an academic place of learning.

First and foremost.  As with everything, it is what YOU DO with the tools and resources that you have, that dictates how this aspect of social mobility benefits you. 

Secondary is:

How it benefits your family.

How it benefits your community.

How it benefits your professional development and your work partners. 

In essence it all begins with YOU.  You put the effort in, and you receive the reward.

People like you who have already taken their first and subsequent steps into social mobility, gather speed through being able to readily utilise social circumstances to their benefit. 

When you start from the lowest point in your life...

You have been at the lower social positions.  You survived it.  You gained strength of character from it.  You are mentally and/or physically scarred from the experiences.  NOW the only way is UP.  You are determined to make it in life.  You are determined to change your set of circumstances.  Why not you?  Why not now? 

You still have the fear of not being acknowledged with anything special. 

You still have the fear of being a fraud amongst special people. 

You still have the fear of not being accepted by people better than you?

You still have many fears and these fears hound you day and night. 

You fight with yourself, in your head, about how inadequate you are and how no-one gives you a chance in life.

You are ready for the greatest step forward.  The greatest step out of your comfort zone.  The greatest step away from your fears.

There are many people who were once where you are right now, from all across the world, who are looking to help others similar to themselves into social mobility.  These particular groups of people have this innate need to help others who remind them of themselves, wanting to get ahead in life from a position of social and professional poverty, negligence, setbacks, hardships and barriers.

Sometimes those that are ahead in social mobility see an aspect of their beloved mother, father, brother, or sister in others; such as you, feeling a need to help you because of this remembrance.

The other side to that is that there are people who were born into, or, are deeply ingrained into the abuse of social mobility in a morbid manner.

Due to their established family or social connections they will use you like a slave through your lack of know how in social mobility AND through your goodwill to others.  There are many who have made the steps into social mobility from an impoverished or ‘deficient’ upbringing, having experienced such rudeness in people.  These types of people are to be avoided at all costs. 

- You do not have your name associated with them. 

- You do not give them the time of day. 

- You do not connect with them over the Internet; such as social media. 

- You do not connect with them professionally. 

Once you give these ill-mannered people the use of your name, your time and your money, they WILL use and abuse you until you cease to be useful to them.  They WILL and they DO trample on you.  You have been warned.

YOU are important.  YOU ARE CONTENT and YOUR CONTENT = CURRENCY.

Let no-one take that away from you.  Especially not complete strangers.  Never mind the members of your own family or community.

Let me impart one aspect of terrible social and professional manners that I encountered as a young lady, through a consultant contract about 30 years ago. 

I was recommended by a previous employer to assist as a consultant at an annual tourism expo for a subscription based publication. 

There was a White South African man who had been placed in charge of the whole operation at the exhibition stand.  The team attending were three people.  This man and myself initially.  Then there was an addition of a member of staff from the publication office.  An Indian young man who was to support me.  Prior to the event I had made some valuable research and connections to assist with the image and quality of the stand to attract passers-by.  I had paid for marketing images and made telephone calls on my own mobile.  I was assured that any out of pocket costs would be reimbursed by the White South African.  He was all smiles and friendly and said that he could be trusted.  He also kept bragging about his social connections through his family to rich people and members of the aristocracy.

On the day of the expo it soon transpired that I would be doing all the work, without any decent rest duration.  The other two were nowhere to be seen and yet they bandied my name to other expo stands that I was working for them.  Whilst they drank alcohol all day and ate like Lords using up the budget allocated for the event, swiftly followed by chatting up as many blonde females as possible.  There was no professionalism about them.  I was ‘the girl at the stand’ to them.  The agreement was that my consultancy experience and knowledge on expos was deemed invaluable to the proprietors of the publication.  To the team.  This is why I was recommended and why the publishers acknowledged my worth.

A number of things went wrong during the expo days and I voiced my concerns.  For instance, that the two men needed to participate more at the stand, instead of wandering around like Lords of the Manor.  They did not like my directness.  They did not have a clue what to do when they were lacking in resources to deal with issues at the stand.  Issues that I had brought up during the initial preparation of putting the event together.  Issues that were ignored by the person in charge. 

Then there was the arrival of family members to the stand.  I was ignored by the family and friends gathering.  In fact, even the family and friends looked down upon me.  The Indian young man was submissive to the White South African and he felt he had the right to belittle me.  This was especially apparent when the mother of the South African visited the expo stand.  All three treated me with disdain in a public setting.  I nevertheless rose above the situation.  This aggravated them even more.  Whilst they were all idly chatting away, I dealt with the enquiries with acute professionalism.  So much so that people ignored the two men and wanted my attention.  I was doing business with the professionals.  The students wanting the subscriptions and the trades people interested in the publications.  It is fair to state that the people hosting the stands nearby noticed the shocking behaviour of the two men, telling me as much and stating that any success from the event was primarily down to me. 

I can state that I made some great connections which helped people that I knew; and most importantly that I wanted to help, and in turn this helped me even further.

What happened to the other two?  The White South African was no longer required for the following year and was looking for a job.  He had no self worth, he was used to spending his family’s money to fly between Europe, the USA and South Africa for odd jobs and living off other people.  People like him I had witnessed before and came across later in life.  Attractive on the outside, yet disdainful on the inside. Particularly to others seemingly beneath him.  The Indian man did not last long at his job as the company went into bankruptcy.  People similar to these men, I come across fairly often and deal with them appropriately.

There are many people who are truly crude and they are not worth your time and effort.  When you attend one of our Silver Service dining events, more will be divulged by our members.  The sharing of experiences will stand you in good stead.  I learned from others and you will learn from us.  We have all been through such offensiveness and come out at the other end triumphant. 

But for now, this is not about those types of people with inflated aspects of grandeur and psychological inadequacies.  Within Positive Steps Into Social Mobility there is an insight into such people and their fears of people like you; from humble beginnings, looking different, having strange accents, so on and so forth, moving forward and upwards in society through knowing the actions, behaviours and introductions that will open up opportunities for you. 

Opportunities that you gather at a steady pace and are ready to engage with. 

Positive Steps Into Social Mobility is about YOU and the people like you who are walking through the social barriers and becoming prosperous in doing so with like-minded people across the world.

In social mobility there is a strong connection to emotional psychology to others who are like-minded.  This is swiftly followed by HOW can this new introduction be beneficial to a particular situation.  Invariably the situation, if it is not apparent immediately, becomes apparent in a short space of time.  Some people call it a co-incidence of circumstances.

Invitation, plus one?

I will give you an example.  This is where an invitation for a guest plus one, has YOUR NAME written upon it, as the plus one.  You become vital as a connection for that new contact that you made at a previous event.  Your positive steps enabled and proved to others observing you, that you could be a part of something bigger, better and special through a recommendation.

At events, people will observe how you are dressed and how you conduct yourself.  Like attracts like.  As well as opposites attract.  Sometimes you are lumbered with people that you have not chosen to be with and whom you would not normally wish to associate with.  This is where you make your mark to show your calibre of character and strength, so that you come out of the situation victorious and unscathed.

Something as simple as frequently imitating and harnessing yourself to others, in order to rub off some of their perceived grandeur on to you, instantly tags such a person as coarse and licentious.  Fickle or lecherous in ways that you are already thinking of, as you visualise the scenario.

Can you imagine seeing a guest who intermittently rubs his penis as he is talking to others in the reception area before luncheon is announced?  This is one sign of social inadequacy that is not to be seen as an impressive contact.  Social or professional.  How on earth could you recommend someone like this to act on your behalf?  Even if this guest was a chairman of somewhere or another.  Such a guest with a professional status, should know better on how to conduct himself within social etiquette.  Never mind a business luncheon!

Unfortunately, I have come across such men at public events.  They were senior executives of some company or another.  They varied in nationalities.  From Pakistan, India, Poland, Sweden, Germany, North Africa and other Eastern European countries whose names have faded from memory.  Not wanting to tar all men with the same brush, I am sure that there are some very decent men from those countries, but these experiences do taint One’s view on social interaction at somewhat important social events.  There are certain expectations in social mobility, once the line of indecency has been crossed it is a matter of proving oneself again and again to ascertain a confidence level and trust from others who may give the benefit of the doubt AND forgive and forget.  Even if someone does forgive and forget such an ‘unforgettable’ social episode, the degree of invitations to events for that person will be slim.  And the interaction will be negligible.  It may be that someone with tact and time, would need to take a person with this lack in social skills to one side.  Delicately explaining what they should and should not be doing in company. 

How One presents oneself in special or important circumstances is everything.  It is crucial. 

It can dictate how fortunate you become, through the connections with others who have the ability to bestow you with situations, where you can access opportunities and prosperity.  With like-minded people the opportunities and prosperity gathers growth.  Sometimes when you enter into social mobility and receive an invitation to an event, or when you choose to take YOUR first step to a ticket held event, YOU are nervous as YOU know very little people at the event…

… OR, as more is the case, YOU know no-one at the event. 

In such situations YOU have the ability to come away more confidently, with at least one mutually beneficial connection.  This, through having had the positive steps into social mobility guide YOU through a situation which YOU are now able to handle with trust and belief in YOURSELF. 

Imagine not having that foresight and entering a room full of people and not knowing when to enable a start, or excuse yourself from, a situation.

Your accent or dialect should never be seen as a hindrance to propelling you further in life. 

In fact, it is an ASSET. 

It can act as one of the advantageous attributes about you that makes people gravitate to you.  Your accent, or your dialect, realises your authenticity when connectors are looking for a specific person, who has a particular knowledge or experience from a certain location.  That means, YOU.  People are looking to connect with YOU and your accent or dialect, is the key to your opportunities.

One of the most common aspects that expats and diasporas have is a gravitation towards other individuals that have similarities or interests to themselves.  For example, languages, sailing, hill walking, fishing, symbolism and mythology, sport, charity work, fitness, art, literature, science, magic, gardening, the weather and nature.  Anything goes.  There are no limits.  But there are certain conditions in conversations and behaviours that have to be observed in a social setting.

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