Do you think you have to be perfect? Are you fiddling around with a topic over and over again, not having the courage to release something? Does Perfectionism serve us, does it serve the purpose?
I had a nice talk with my husband Franz having breakfast in our favorite coffee shop on Saturday morning. I told him about my latest video I posted in my community about Fear. My fear to reach my goals, my fear to accomplish what I have decided to do in my journey becoming a successful digital marketer.
When I told him what I was thinking he came up with his point of view. He said that he knows me well - (he knows me probably better than I know myself). He said that what I call fear he would call "seeking for Perfectionism". He was asking if I thought that aiming for perfectionism is the right focus to reach targets. If a perfect result is the outcome of work or focus on a matter - that's perfectly fine for him, but this would hardly ever happen. To appreciate very good or even good results can serve the purpose as well. Working on achieving the perfect result takes definitely more time. And it stops our creativity as we come across doubts and hesitation more likely.
He gave me some examples out of our daily life, at home and at work. He explained to me that if I always want to be perfect I am limiting myself to be effective and see faster results. Everything can always be better, but does it serve the purpose to work hard on making it 100%? Franz thinks that there is a time for a thing to be ready. If we dare to give it out as it is can make us move on towards taking the next step. Perfectionism holds us back from getting results.
Ok - that was something to think about. After doing some research online I found this: Our fear not to be enough and the anxiety to experience refusal can be responsible for our aim to be perfect, as well as low self-esteem. We risk feeling unworthy or being of minor value when we make mistakes or show weakness. If we are putting too much pressure on ourselves permanently being too demanding on being perfect we can get mentally and physically exhausted.
If we can overcome the "I-need-to-be-perfect" way of thinking we can easily release a very good or even good result out to the world. Then wait for the response, wait what's coming back to you. We have plenty of options and time to fine-tune it. But if we are hesitating to release a good result - it has no chance at all to show us what we can do to get closer to the target which we have given out in the first step - when our target was to come close to perfection. It is about being flexible and take a conscious decision how much time and effort we invest in something. It is good to have high expectations and give the best possible as there is already enough mediocrity around. I realized that I need to learn to live with my mistakes and incompleteness despite aiming for perfectionism.
I love this perspective and will work on implementing it into my daily life of work with my new business to own this attitude. Love Franz for giving me different points of view. Receiving others points of view is so helpful and of high, high value. Franz is helping me to shift my mind, step by step. He had always lived his life in that spirit, this I so empowering. We have not spoken like this for a long time as there was no such challenge. I invite him every day to learn about my ideas with my journey of SFM and I am so happy to have him as my consultant in my personal little back-office.
And the SFM community got my back. This will be a huge experience and support for you as well. So......let's do this together. Let's work on our attitude to get faster results. Let's work on getting better and better taking step after step - and not wait for things to be perfect.
It is ok to be "under construction".....