i met this guy during a party at a friend's house, we cliqued instantanely; This was the first time i fell a connection with someone this quickly. he added me on twitter and instagram then we started to talk. I was just going trough a break up with my ex boyfriend when we were talking. I made him wait 6-7 months before going on a date. We hanged out for about 3 months until he had to leave in Canada for school and football. I live in France. At first I didn't want any long distance relationship and i told him about that but he really wanted to make it work with me, he wanted me to be his girlfriend and having me by his side. So I stayed. We saw each other every 6 months during 1 or 2 months. We had been together during 2 years and I found out he ch3ated on me. He was in really in a relatonship with another girl during 5 months, had unprotected s ex with her 4 times a week and all. And in the middle of that, he went visit me during 1 month where I introduced him to my parents and relatives, while he knew he was c3ea-ting on me. I even bought my flight with him. This could have been the first time I went to visit him in Canada because he was always the one who came.
I knew he was ch3ating because I trusted my guts and I digged. I saw this girl on his instgram and always talked about her. The last 2 months of our relationship was full of arguments when we used to never argue. We were literraly best friends our whole relatuionship until I started having doubts of him ch3ating. He manipulated me, playing me likfe a fool, making me belive I was paranoiac and all. Everytime I told him about my doubts he managed to reverse the situatuion making me feel guilty of accusating him.
Till the day I had the girl on the phone because i went talking to her and she told me all the truth. They were seeing each other everytime, she cooked for him, watched series, cuddling and everything you do with your girlfirend. Moreover, she is in Love with him. I left him, because he keeps acting like a child, and at first he didn't admit. Then he keeps saying that he doesn't love her at all, that he is using her bc he feels alone etc. But i don't care. I discovered someone that i didi'nt know. A ch3ater, liar and everything. he apologized but I didn't forgave him yet + I know he still sees the girl. I even think he ch3a-ted on me before that girl.
It hurts because he knew I was going to take the plane soon, and he kept on hanging out with this girl anyway!! But the thing is that I didn't delete my flight for Canada because i told my auntie I come to see her and I discovered all that 1 month before taking the plane. I'll stay for a month and a half and it's very long. I left him and I want to move on but i'm kinda scared of seeing him again, scared becuase I know he will be just next to where I'll stay; I don't know what to do. Because yes i still love him so bad he was my first everything, my soulmate i thought but the betray is too huge. i know I souldn't see him because i really NEED to move on and I know he won't change but a little part of me wants to ......I may think of a second chance bc he keeps on telling he will change, that he loves me, wants me to be his future but idk...once a ch3ater always a ch3ater right? and when the trust is broken, mostly in long distance relationships, it's really hard to get that back. Is a confrontation worth it?
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