We human beings are social animals. We simply cannot survive for long just by ourselves.
Yet the Belonging and the other side of the belonging which is being alone is big part of our lives.
Stoics, the philosophy that concerns on how we can overcome our destructive emotions and focus on what we can control, has the concept of inner Fortress. Inner fortress means preparing ourselves for what ever life will present us with.
Preparation in the present is all that we can do. It’s very closely intertwined with amor fati, the love of fate. To love what ever is right now and then work from there towards the desired goals.
What ever happens, that is the practice and preparation.
These are the thoughts I’ve lately noticed myself repeating to myself over and over again to make them instinctive. I’ve noticed that my personality is rather volatile. At parts in my life I’ve been fine being alone for extended periods of time, however then there are times I crave for company. Recently it has been so that I’ve been around so many people that I’ve forgotten how to be quiet by myself.
However, it is today that I realized it is exactly the amount happiness we have in our lives that we have no matter what the other people do. If we are happy by ourselves, in our inner citadel, that is the happiest we can be and nothing can take that away from us.
It’s the building of the inner citadel that we should put this time and then to enjoy it’s fruits. The more Prepared your fortress is, the more you prepared you are for anything that the life will throw at you, the better you will be able to enjoy it, be it alone or with others.
The way you enjoy being by yourself is a good indicator thought, how well you are prepared.
Life is short, we better get ready.