Observe yourself how do you React to the unpleasant or surprising events. Then ask yourself, does this further what I want to see in life?
I find a lot of learning and relief in this exercise. Many things in life are achieved by Consistent Conscious action. Not everything, but many things. And to make consistent conscious decisions, we need to know what we need to do in order to get there.
Those people who have Capacity (i.e. physical, emotional, social) can react to almost any stressful situation with ease, because they have capacity to handle the situation. When you have capacity, you can react to the situation with curiosity, learning and laughter rather than to treat is a threat.
How could one develop such mature response then? By building the capacity then at all levels. Physical capacity increase through exercise. Social through social interactions and emotional capacity increase with our ability to consciously recognize and acknowledge the existence of the emotions.
Our responses to the stress vary. That’s why scary things for one, do not necessarily work for others.
Keep observing on how do you react to various happenings, keep a log and get to know yourself. Once you know yourself then you’ll be able to further