Being humble is a good thing, right? But maybe it’s possible to be too humble. Let’s look at how we may be accidentally having a negative impact on other people when we are trying to be humble.
In a previous blog, I talked about how to graciously accept praise. I talked just briefly about how it doesn’t feel good for the other person when we reject praise that they give us. More recently, I’ve gotten clearer on the negative impact we have when we reject a Compliment.
It’s easy to do. We don’t want to appear to be full of ourselves, so we dodge the compliment. We play it down, say it’s nothing. But seldom do we stop to think about how it feels to have a compliment rejected.
I was exploring this topic with a small group. I asked one of the members if she has any friends who don’t accept the compliments she gives. Someone came to mind right away. Whenever she says what a great job the person does cooking yummy food, the person dismisses it. So I asked how it made her feel. She thought about it and replied, “I Feel Sad and a little angry.”
To me, her words were profound. We are trying to be a good person by not accepting the compliment. Instead, we are making the other person “sad and a little angry.”
Can you relate to that statement? Is that how you feel when someone doesn’t accept your compliment? That’s pretty much how I feel. In fact, I think it’s safe to say that in general when we don’t except someone’s compliment, we are making them feel sad and a little angry.
That’s not the kind of impact I want to be having on other people. I trust you’re wanting to have a positive impact on other people, too. So, if you’re not wanting to make other people feel sad and a little angry, think twice before diminishing the compliment they’ve given you. A simple “thank you” or “I receive that” can help people feel good instead.
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