Our minds are much stronger than we give it credit for. We can justify decisions that we make even if we know it’s not the best for us. We can rationalize our behaviors and thoughts to fit what we want rather than what we need. The mind is a powerful tool in our lives but we have to actively learn to use it. And that’s the hard part.

Many people are unhappy simply because of their mindset and their daily approach to life. This simple list below are things you should give up if you want to experience true Happiness. We often deprive ourselves of the joy in life because of our mindset and ways we approach situations in life.

Here is a list of things you should give up if you want the experience of peace and true happiness.

Complaining

Let’s be honest here. What does complaining really do to enhance your life? Most people would say it serves no positive purpose in their lives. Give it up. It will only deter you.

Wishing the past was different

If you’re busy dwelling on the past, there will be no change for your future. Rather than wish it were different, it’s more productive to ponder ways you can make your present and future better.

Wishing the present was different

You have no control of your past because it’s already happened. Don’t just wish for your present to be different, take action. Make sure you make the necessary changes that need to be made in your life so your present can be better.

Looking for outside approval

If you are constantly looking for approval outside of yourself, it will be a temporary fix at best. In order for you to feel secure and happy with yourself, it’s not the approval of others that is key. The key is knowing who you are and accepting that regardless of what others think.

Searching for external validation

There is no reason for you to seek validation from anyone. If you love yourself fully and accept who you are as a person, no one else’s opinion should matter. Stop searching. It’ll save you time and energy you can’t get back.

Excuses

If you did something wrong or something that may be inappropriate, own it. If you don’t own what you’ve done and you continue to make excuses for things in life or decisions you’ve made, you won’t succeed in your relationships or friendships.

Perfectionism

No one is perfect. No one will ever be and has never been perfect. As long as you put forth your best effort and gave anything 100%, than you have done everything you possibly could. You will save yourself a lot of unnecessary stress and have more peace when you give this up.

Avoidance of negative feelings

Avoiding your Negative Feelings makes you blind to why you’re feeling a certain way and how you can make changes to stop feeling that way.

Criticizing and judging others

When you’re judging people, you are assuming something or feeling a certain way based off of your own experiences rather than looking at it from their perspective. You’re being close-minded. Give it up!

Allowing fear to dictate your life

You’ll miss out on exciting and new experiences that can be life changing.

Wanting life to be exciting at all times

Life is exciting in and of itself. There will be periods of down time when things are more routine. Take that time to reflect and use it to your advantage.

Limiting beliefs

This means you’re close-minded. Don’t limit yourself. There’s a huge world out there for you to experience and you can only fully experience it with an open-mind.

The need for control

This is a simple concept: there are things in life that are beyond your control. The sooner you realize this and give it up, the more free you are going to feel and the less anxiety you will experience.

The need to feel and be comfortable all the time

The reason people Avoid Dealing with their feelings and emotions as well as finding out who they are as people is because it causes feelings of discomfort. I know I didn’t want to face myself because I had done some awful things to people that I would have to acknowledge. But it opens the door for growth and opportunity to be a better person than you were.

Trying to buy happiness

Any materialistic thing you purchase is a temporary fix to a bigger issue, being happy. Instead of wasting money to be happy, get to know yourself and love yourself because that’s the only way you are going to experience happiness on a consistent basis.

Anger

Let go of the anger you feel. It’s affecting you more than anything or anyone else. You’ll be able to find peace when you let it go.

Resentment

Resentments are poisonous and hinder your ability to learn from it and move forward in life. You will remain stagnant if you have unresolved resentments.

Gossip

Engaging in gossip is just not a good thing in general. It leads to conflict and unnecessary stress. You may be gossiping as a way to avoid dealing with your issues or flaws. It never ends well when you’re gossiping. So stop!

Toxic people and relationships

If there are people in your life or relationships you have with others that are not positively contributing to your life in some way, shape or form, they have no place in your life. Toxic people are everywhere and it’s up to you to let them in or keep them out.

Negative self-talk

The more you talk negatively about yourself, the more negative energy you’re going to give off and people can feel that energy. It’s also serving no purpose in your life. Tell yourself you’re beautiful every single day. Daily affirmations go a long way. Stop talking bad about yourself!

Blaming others

You are able to control the way you behave and act as well as how you react to things. There’s no sense in blaming others for your problems or unhappiness. It’s up to you to fix that.

All of the above have one thing in common: hindering your ability to find peace and experience true and pure happiness. Get rid of all the negativity and things that serve no positive purpose in your life. Don’t deprive yourself of what it’s like to be happy. We all deserve it.

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