How to Be a Badass Online/Distance Dominatrix
I’ve been doing webcam modeling and other online adult work for over 8 years. I have learned a lot of things about fetishes and the dirty minds of men then I’d sometimes care to know. However, I really do LOVE being a Domme on cam, phone, and through texting. Here’s how to get started as a Domme online so you can have men kneeling on cam at your feet in no time.
Being Online/Distance, You’ll Sometimes Have to Get Creative
Come up with assignments for your sissy sluts, such as buy a sexy shade of red lipstick and watch YouTube videos to learn to apply it. Then have him take pictures of the lipstick and him wearing it. You’ll need proof of them doing what they’re told many times because you’re not there to make sure they’re doing it, obviously. Demand pictures of your SPH (small penis humiliation) subs and how tiny they are so you can laugh at them and “show the pictures to your girlfriends”. Get creative to ensure your subs are doing what you instruct when you’re not watching them on cam.
Always Look Your Best
This goes without saying for all cam girls, but it’s especially important when you’re a Domme. These guys want and need to worship you and feel like complete dirt. When you are dressed in your sexiest lingerie with hair done and perfect makeup, not only will you feel great about yourself and more powerful, but your subs will be so busy drooling that they’ll start to not even care how much money they’re spending on you.
Always Stay on Top
There’s a phrase in the BDSM world called “topping from the bottom”. Often, your sub will try to start telling you what to do, what position they want you in, etc. Don’t ever let them take control. You are the Goddess so YOU are the one in control. If he starts telling you he’ll tribute you after you do this or that you’d look better in this outfit, etc., then you just remind him who the bitch is and make him send you an even bigger tribute or spank himself harder for being insolent.
Study and Learn About as Many Fetishes Possible
There is no one size fits all sub. Just like us, they’re all different and have different kinks. One sub will love being pegged (you screwing him with a strapon) where another sub will hate that. It’ll help you keep control and make more money if you know what he wants when he tells you his fetish or how he loves to serve.
Sex Toys and Accessories You Absolutely Need
For CBT (cock and ball torture) you should have some clothespins and rubber bands. For spanking his pathetic ass, a paddle will come in handy. Having a large strap-on dildo will come in handy again and again. A corset, high heels, and fishnets will never fail to bring your subs to their knees. They love this outfit! High heels for making him lick them or stepping on his balls will make your sessions better and drive them wild.
Lastly, Have Your Social Media Accounts Set Up
Having your social Media Accounts Set up will do so much for your business. You’ll be able to gain new followers and subs, follow other women in the adult industry and learn from them, network with people, learn about new sites you may want to work on or sell your content, and, most importantly, so your subs and customers can follow you and know when you’ll be online, get addicted to you, and so forth.
So make your accounts very sexy (but don’t show nudity! Don’t give it away for free). Use keywords like “Domme”, ” fetish”, “BDSM”, ” Findom“, etc. This will help new subs find and follow you. You can post teasing pics of yourself, write about sessions you have with subs and tell others where they can have sessions with you, write about your daily life so they can feel they know you, whatever you want.
Social media is imperative in this day and age to find new clients, keep your current clients, and network.
*To start Domming, set up a fetish-specific account on Becamgirl.com.
-Written by Raven Skye – Follow her on twitter: @raven69skye
*Becamgirl is affiliated with Jasmin, which is a very popular, fetish-friendly, high-trafficked webcam site!