Are you certain you need certainty?
The need for Certainty is a big driving force in our lives. It is something that we all strive to obtain in our lives and for good reason. Certainty can provide us with a sense of comfort. It helps us avoid painful situations and allows us to enjoy the pleasures of life.
Certainty is such a major need in our lives that without it, our lives get thrown upside down. For many people, certainty often equals survival. Having a sense of certainty that your job will be there tomorrow means that you can continue to pay the rent, buy food and live your life. Certainty in your relationship means you can enjoy the pleasure of your significant other without fear of heartache or pain. When we are certain that our society is safe it allows us to walk out our front doors without worrying about the threat of violence or our personal safety.
It is a universal truth is that we all seek to avoid pain and gravitate toward pleasure and comfort. So if certainty leads to pleasure and comfort, it is natural that we seek ways to add certainty in our lives.
If we all need certainty in our lives, does that mean that once you obtain pure certainty in all aspects of your life that you will have reached the pinnacle of all that life has to offer? Well, not really. Life seems to have a sense of humor.
What happens when you are 100% certain about every aspect of your life? Think about it for a moment. You know exactly what will happen when you arrive at work, you know exactly what your significant other is going to say or do when you get home, you know exactly what you are going to buy when you go out for groceries, you know exactly what you will be doing this Friday night, and so on.
There lies the catch 22. If we have absolute certainty in our lives, we get bored. When we are bored, we are unfulfilled and that can eventually lead to feeling depressed or being uninterested in life. How do we break free from boredom? We add uncertainty in our lives. We shake things up and seek out new and uncertain experiences. Our need for certainty is in direct conflict with our need for uncertainty.
So what is the lesson here? Simply put: Do not feel bad if you feel like your life is not 100% the way you want it. If your life is a little out of control, maybe it was meant to be that way? Life is designed to have conflict. The only time you will have 100% certainty in your life is when your dead. Until then, seek a happy medium between certainty and uncertainty and enjoy the ride.