A 21-year-old woman had a pretty awful time growing up since she was relentlessly bullied by a number of kids.

“The bullying has crippled me, even now that I haven’t seen these people in 3 years,” she explained.

There was one girl, in particular, the same age as her, named Amanda, who was one of the worst bullies in the group.

It just so happened that some of her friends and some of the bullies hung out, but she never spent time around her friends when they were with the bullies.

She never intervened with her friends being friendly with these terrible kids since she didn’t think it was up to her to tell her friends what to do or who to hang with.

Well, she recently found out that Amanda passed away, and as soon as other people learned about her passing, they flooded her social media profiles with sweet sentiments and messages about her.

This young woman was the sole person among her friends who did not post tributes to Amanda or say anything about her passing on social media.

“I didn’t want to for 2 reasons. 1) my experiences with her were not the fun and happy kind to talk about in such posts,” she said.

“And 2) in my mind, it would be an insult to do so, seen as though we did NOT like each other in the slightest. Writing how mournful and grief-stricken I am would be a slap in the face for both of us.”

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One of her good friends was upset with her for not posting something about Amanda, but then her friend asked her about the outfit she planned on wearing at Amanda’s Funeral.

She told her friend she was not going to be at the funeral, and her friend was livid. Her friend went off on her about “all the good memories” though she pointed out she never had memories like that with Amanda since Amanda bullied her.

She does not think showing up at Amanda’s funeral is a good idea at all, since they were anything but friends.

She was upset with her friend for pretending to have been extremely close to Amanda, but the truth is her friend and Amanda did speak after having gone to school together.

She felt her friend was not being genuine and was using Amanda’s death for attention. Her friend feels she’s being disrespectful for not wanting to go to the funeral.

“If the roles were reversed, I would want my funeral to have nothing negative drudged into it, so that’s what I afforded Amanda,” she wrote.

Now, this friend of hers is no longer speaking to her and she’s left wondering if she is somehow in the wrong for not wanting to go to Amanda’s funeral.

Here’s what the internet had to say.

“…Don’t be bullied. Tell her she’s being a bully.”

roscoe_e_roscoe

“Just ask her about which “memory” you should post on SM…then list the worst bullying incidents you can think of.”

“Then ask her which one you should discuss at the funeral, preferably with her grieving mother.”

EMWerkin

“Your “friend” is being a bully like Amanda was. Looks like she did you a favor….you know she’s not really a friend.”

DisneyAddict2021

“Death doesn’t magically change who that person was. You’re not being disrespectful or cruel by not going, your friend needs to accept your decision and back off.”

IHaveSaidMyPiece

“Don’t go to the funeral and you might want to consider dropping your friend too. No, you can’t dictate who your friends hang out with, but if they knowingly hung out with people that were bullying you, that would have been a sign for most to distance themselves, and the fact that she expected you to go to her funeral, talking about ‘good times’ was proof she either really wasn’t paying attention or didn’t care.”

reneevstheworld

“…It’s almost like you’re being bullied by her memory at this point. This girl was a bully to you (and very recently!). She died.”

“You said nothing mean, you are totally respectful, you move on. That is a lot, you’re great. I have no idea how or why your friend is asking what they’re asking of you, but they’re completely in the wrong.”

“There’s a way you could have handled this inappropriately. You haven’t.”

Flyhro

You can read the rest of what the internet had to say to her here.