Let me begin by disclosing I have a general bias. As a society I think we over share on Facebook. The FB platform makes it easy to forget who our audience is. When I was in the first grade my mom gave me a piece of advise that has stuck with me, “Don’t say anything in class that you would be embarrassed to say in front of Sister Margaret” (my first grade teacher). I know it’s cheesy, but pick the most abstract person on your FB friend list and think of them before you post something. It could be your boss, a well-respected relative, a person from high school you haven’t seen in 15 years, it doesn’t matter. Just an obscure person who under normal circumstances you would not feel comfortable sharing personal information with.
Okay, I’m done preaching. If you and your former spouse are in the process of divorcing, do not discuss the specifics of the Divorce on Facebook. Divorce is difficult, emotional, and overwhelming. It makes sense to talk to a therapist. A professional can provide sound advise that will help you navigate through this transition. I also recommend journaling and calling on a solid support team. It’s comforting to know a friend is just a phone call away if you need to talk.
Resist the urge to speak out or vent on FB. If your ex lashes out, ignore the comment. It is very easy for fights to escalate online. You lose out on context when you are left reading messages from behind a computer screen. Your ex may print something incredibly hurtful or personal. If you are in the divorce process, bring this up as a concern during mediation. Let a skilled mediator help facilitate a conversation about Social Media. The two of you will have the opportunity to have an honest conversation and reach an agreement regarding what will be shared on social media websites.