But more importantly, discover your talents that cannot be graded. This comes from a small passage in the book " The things you can see only when you slow down ".
From a young age competition and competing are hardwired into us. It pervades people's thoughts and they become more worried about appearances and one upmanship.
Concern for pleasing their parents and how their friends view them, becomes normal. As they enter adulthood and the workplace, it becomes a self negating mantra. We all have come across people who have to be right, have the last word and finished first to earn perceived bragging and brownie points.
Then it becomes a competition about driving the right car, wearing the right designer label and correct address. All to show they are ahead in the competition with their peers. Even their hobbies become a competition with other hobbyists.
To break through this destructive cycle is simple. Discover a hidden talent within yourself. One where you do not grade yourself against anyone or anything. This can range from, flower arranging, calligraphy or as simple as growing a herb garden.
The most important aspect is to become free from competition and gain enjoyment from your self discovery of your new talent. Your time off becomes freedom, instead of been trapped in a competition with your friends, family and work peers about who had the best, biggest and most expensive or exclusive weekend off compared to others.
I urge you to stop grading and start living.
Colin Myles Author