In this episode of The One Problem, Mariett Ramm talks about impatience. This is something that most of us can relate to. As she was talking, I was reminded of the short story, A Telephone Call by Dorothy Parker. The main character is sitting by the phone waiting for a call from a guy.

Hi there. My name is Avil Beckford, and this is the latest episode of the One Problem Podcast. Guests, come on, they present a problem, and they have six minutes to offer a solution. And it's a way for us to learn from each other. My special guest today is Mariett Ramm, the founder of the Powerful Woman, and international bestselling author. Over to you, Mariett.

Mariett Ramm

Thank you so much for the invitation to be on The One Problem podcast. I opted to talk about a very practical problem. What happens, and how we can best deal when we are not getting that text message, or the direct message,  phone call or that email that we are really looking forward to having. Now, I would like to approach this problem from three different angles because I do believe that we are made up of spirit, mind, and body. How we actually approach impatience, so to speak, from the spiritual angle, is really about embracing that emptiness.

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When you’re not getting the feedback you’re looking for from that person, there is this kind of emptiness inside of us. And we have to really understand that it's about accepting the scenario and there is no forcing. You don't force because as soon as you force, you are cutting off all the creative energy of the universe and the energies that's basically between you and the other person. And we also have to think about that. Patience is not a goal.

It really is a journey. Patience is a “how to” skill.If you think about it, it’s like a reverse domino effect. It’s like when you are experiencing small little things that are allowing you to experience good feelings, so to speak. That's an indication from the universe that you are on the right track. So small things, taking baby steps. And from my perspective, we need to understand that  impatience is what happens in the body when we start to become angry. Why haven't I got that reply?

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Mariett Ramm

I spent half a day  thinking about this particular issue. And I want some feedback. So it’s also about getting anxious and nervous. It goes down to the fact that we have got a fear of missing out. Missing out on an amazing business, on an amazing connection with a life partner, particularly a gentleman or a lady or amazing entrepreneurial venture. And we go into a panic reaction. Now this goes to the third point and that is we need to understand that in effect, it's our body.

This is our body, this amazing human organism that arranges all this. So in effect, when we think we are not getting this message back, this feedback, or you think that there is something wrong with me. No, absolutely everything is right with you, because the body, through billions of years of evolution and your trillions of cells are absolutely working. And your body is producing the exact flight or fight reaction. Now, you have to understand that here we are dealing with cortisol, and on the lady's side it’s estrogen.

So when cortisol and the stress reaction goes up, estrogen unfortunately for us comes down. And when estrogen comes down, a lady is incredibly unhappy. So we need to understand that in effect here, everything is okay. The body is working perfectly. It's about finding those little steps, and we have to identify that. For example, the signs to look out for are when, for example, your breathing is shallow. When you're tense, you feel your muscles are tensing up, your hands touching. You really have to consciously focus on this, and just let go.

Mariett Ramm

Focus on a breathing pattern. And this will help with the physiology. Now, the second step is to go back to the mind level. Why are you angry? Why are you experiencing the fear of missing out? What is it? Is it actually this particular email, this particular business, or is there something else from the past? There is a pattern that has been going on in your life. So you have to realize that it’s this person that's creating that anxiety?

Because it might not be. It might be something completely different. And then you go back to the spiritual level, and you see that at the end of the day, all you have to do is just embrace, and allow and understand that this is a skill that you have to protect.

Avil Beckford

This is fantastic. Thank you so much. There's a lot of stuff in there to unpack. And I know that my listeners and readers, because I do a transcript, will get a lot from this interview. Thank you so much.

Mariett Ramm

It's very difficult in six minutes. But thank you for the opportunity, Avil. It's an absolute pleasure.

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