You don’t have to get divorced…even if he is gay. A Friend Set Me Straight …. So to Speak. We all need friends to keep us to keep it real, don’t we? I had a discuss… Read More

Ever want to know what it is like to live “in the closet” when you are the straight spouse?  I will tell you.  It’s Hell. (This post deals with emotional abuse an… Read More

In the summer of 2006, after a series of unfortunate events including a miscarriage, losing my job, and a freaking hailstorm, I decided to try out a new coping mechanism, baking.  &nbsp&hell…Read More

Why it so hard to believe that I was married for twelve years?  Is it because I looks so much younger?  God, I hope so.  Is it because twelve years of marriage did not produce… Read More

Let me be very clear. This is not legal advice. If you do feel an impending divorce, get a lawyer, get some cash, and get a friend or family member you can stay with in case you have to leav… Read More

Get Your Own Credit Card in Your Name Your one step closer. Proceed with caution. Getting your own credit card in your name is the best way to improve your credit score. If you are planning… Read More

More About Getting Your Own Bank Account and Following the Money Follow the money Get your own bank account and your own online profile for your bank. My grandmother told me to do this when… Read More

Why I am Writing This: Reader Feedback I am truly moved and humbled by my readers’ response. I had told you want to look for and a bit of what it looks on the other side of the closet… Read More

We are in this together. Straight, not Narrow In light of the shootings in Orlando targeted at the LGBTQ community, I thought I should post the following: Let me be VERY clear. I am very PRO… Read More

Lying is exhausting. Keeping up someone else’s lie you didn’t even know about can be down right destructive. I swear, on a stack of Bibles, I did not know my husband was gay. We… Read More

There comes a time growing up when you become “aware” of music. An awareness where your musical tastes are not just “kid songs” or directly influenced by your pa… Read More

There has been a taboo related to women’s solo pleasure going way back to the dark ages of the patriarchy where men were made to believe that all women’s sexuality started and en… Read More

Some of you will never feel what it is like to fall in love for a second time, and for that you should be grateful, because it’s awful.  It is heart wrenching and you can’t… Read More

I am not the first wife have her husband “turn gay” on her.  There are also husbands who have lost their wives to the Sapphic allure of lesbianism.  Of course, I do not… Read More

A lot of things have changed for the better since coming “home.”   Here are the highlights. My Weight I haven’t been writing about dieting lately because it just… Read More

Even as I was living it, I knew that I would look back at my thirties and know that this would be the most interesting, fun, difficult, and freeing time of my life. So often a woman in her t… Read More

Disadvantages of Not Being a Pretty Girl: The Funny Fat Girl I have written earlier about the advantages of not being a pretty girl.  Having time to develop one’s own personality… Read More

What I really want to say is this You are the one I hate The one I want to leave, to lie to, and to commiserate the misery you create with your selfishness and sloth you make me feel so wron… Read More

I’m too early. Sitting in my car Hair perfect Make up pristine There is nothing to adjust Nothing to fix. Just me As I am Or at least the more polished version. Hoping that who I am an… Read More

Thomas Wolfe famously said what we always have known, but have to relearn over and over, “You can’t go home.” I know that line. I know it to be true, but I did it anyway. F… Read More