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Dear Diary (Week 16),

Tags: love
In order to advance in life, taking risks is inevitable. With Love, it's no different. Love is a gamble, entirely unpredictable. Why? Because we put our hearts in people's hands. We think we can trust them but we are sometimes fooled. Of course, in order to find love, we must find the courage to make ourselves vulnerable. Yet, it's good to set boundaries as to how vulnerable we're willing to make ourselves.

Apparently, true love is supposed to be worth every loss, every heartache, and every tear. It conquers all, they say. Yet, love has no guarantees. True love is but an image we create, the dream we hope to achieve, the fix we so desperately crave. Love's promises put our guards down, giving us this false sense of bravery when we jump into the unknown. Yet, it doesn't take that many failed experiences to start developing trust issues. It seems so difficult to make oneself vulnerable, yet so easy to get hurt.

The way we cope with our failed love experiences and the manner in which we use what we learned in future experiences makes all the difference. It takes a lot of perseverance to pick ourselves up after each and every failure and move on. I don't want to give up on love EVER, even after I find it. I don't want to have trust issues anymore but the lines of who to trust are blurred. I don't want to hold back but it seems like every time I give a piece of my heart, I get all the rest taken away. This is why I try to take healthy risks. When something a man I am talking to did or said doesn't feel right, I try to see where his intentions lie. It may seem like all I have to lose is a couple of hours for a date, yet there's so much more involved. 

It's very important to stay open-minded in terms of our choices in dates, as sometimes people turn out differently than we expect. Love is a gamble worth taking risks for, as long as we're prepared to deal with any repercussions that may result. While we can have many unsuccessful attempts at love without any harmful repercussions, some experiences change us for the worse. Trusting enough of the wrong people can cause us to be bitter and may change our outlook on love. It's good to be careful who we get involved with and once that person earned our trust it's worth opening our hearts to that person.

Love,
Faigy


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