The other day, I wrote a post about people who love to hate. The comments on this post went completely off topic and became a heated argument. Reading the comments, made me realise how extremely different views this world has. The comments were about Abortion, something that I personally don't think has anything to do with terrorism. People can think what they want about my view on abortion but here is what I THINK about it.
Before Noah was ever in my life, I honestly did not really have a second thought on the matter. I'd always hear people say that they would have an abortion if they were to get pregnant as if it was no big deal... I know now that is not the case, it is not as simple as people paint it out to be. Before I continue telling my story, I'd like to point out that I think that abortion is a wonderful thing. Accidental pregnancies do happen all the time, and not everyone knows how to be Parent. It is a lot better that these people stop themselves from becoming parents when they are not willing to put their all into a child's life. It is better that these people live to take care of themselves rather than be miserable for the rest of their lives, blaming their children for their existence. Children shouldn't be brought into this world if a parent isn't there to take care of them. Calling abortion a type of terrorism, is extremely judgemental and wrong, and saying that people should abstain from sex completely unless they are trying to become parents is just plain ignorant and a very close minded view of the world because thats now how it works these days. People are going to have sex, and there is not anything anyone can do about that. All that can be done is to recommend these people to be safe but to also keep in mind that contraceptives are not either 100% effective. HOWEVER, with the risk of being very judged for my opinion now, I do think that the limit of when abortion is ok is far too extreme. When I got pregnant, I got the shock of my life. I was on the pill, I was being safe and I was not expecting that. Laityn and I decided to explore our options and when we went to the doctors to discuss abortion, they told me the different stages of abortion. The first stage is just a pill, that gets rid of the foetus. At this point, the foetus is not considered human, it is undeveloped, unaware and senseless. This is up to eight weeks, after that the foetus starts turning into a baby and develops a sense of touch. I was way over eight weeks when we found out I was pregnant and I was told that I had to have a 'surgical' abortion. Something in me broke down and I just felt that it was not right. If an abortion has to be done surgically, I personally feel like that it is an actual living being. I felt my baby within me that moment and I just knew, that I was not going to take that step. Honestly, I do believe that at a certain point abortion does turn into murder. When I heard that it is legal in the third trimester in certain parts of the world, I was so shocked my body was shaking. In the third trimester a foetus, or rather the baby has fully developed bones, just like we do, it opens its eyes, just like we do, and it practices breathing for the real world... that is a human being and in my opinion, "getting rid" of that is wrong and coldblooded. I can't express my happiness that I have Noah in my life. The first part of my pregnancy was the worst part of my life and I try avoiding to think back to that dreadful time, but when I do, I remember that I even considered aborting my child, it makes me ache. I can't even imagine doing that and honestly, I don't even think that is something I would have been able to live with later on!
A flashback photo of Noah in my belly